My husband told me that he wanted to go on a family run for charity this weekend. He comes home and tells me that now they have made him Team captain and he could not say no. So now we are not going to be "as a family" he said that I and the kids can go. I told him no that was not the idea.
I am sure him and his little "friend" will be the only one on the team
2006-06-06 16:30:01 · 13 answers · asked by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How important is this run to him? Is it a big deal to be a captain? Maybe you should think about him and be proud of him. Do not be mad because of little things like that. You can still go with your kids, right? So what is the problem?
2006-06-06 16:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by my name is what? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not only should you not be annoyed, you should be proud. I mean, you know your husband had no choice but to say yes when they asked him to be team captain. What good man would turn down someone asking him to be the team captain for a charity run? NONE! Not only is it the right thing to do, but it also, probably, made him feel good.
Matter of fact, whether he tells you/shows it/whatever, it will hurt his feelings if you do not show him that you are proud of him. He might even be real hurt if you dont join him...I don't know...every dude is different.
Step back and think about it....you have a husband that spends his saturday, doing a family activity, supporting a charity, keeping himself in shape and is respected enough for someone to ask him to be a captain...there are worse alternatives, huh?
2006-06-06 23:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why the Team Captain can't run with his family. However, if this is not allowed, he maybe had a real problem by saying "no" he wouldn't be captain. I'm not sure who his little friend is--a co-captain, a child? I can understand your dismay at having the plans changed at the last minute, but you have to weigh everything. Is he attentive and caring otherwise, or is this some kind of trend that is increasing and that you need to be concerned about?
2006-06-06 23:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by conni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't mean giving up all the things you love to do. What possible harm is there in being supportive for your husband? Do you love him, or are you just interested in sniping? On the other hand, if he's got a "honey" (you mentioned something about a little "friend") then you have bigger problems on your hands than just the charity run. Your message was a little bit unclear as to exactly what the circumstances are, but on the surface your position appears to be a bit self-centered.
2006-06-06 23:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question didn't make sense. His little friend...is this a female? If so, then yes, you have the right to be annoyed. If the intention was to be a family from the beginning then he should follow through with what he promised you. You and your family are infinitely more important than outside forces. Time to be a man, a family man and put family first.
2006-06-06 23:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by SoCalBeachGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a family run and hes dissing his own family. Does he need to be the center of attention at every thing you go to. Sounds like hes more important then you and your kids.
2006-06-06 23:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by joeyscorpse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by little friend? Is he seeing someone and having and affair? If i were you i would take him up on his offer and go with him as a family! Call his bluff and go and spend family time with him!
2006-06-07 06:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His "little friend". What the hell?? I think you're overreacting. It's a CHARITY event. Get over yourself.
2006-06-07 00:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be annoyed. its a family run, not a run for him and his friends
2006-06-06 23:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by nawnndawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be annoyed. I hate it when people change plans with me, and I have no say about it.
2006-06-06 23:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by heatheradair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋