My ex is getting remarried Saturday, yet continues to drive by my house to see who's there, and calls and makes accusations. The only way he gets away with it is by saying it concerns the kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong going on at home. How do I get him to stop calling and making comments to the kids?
2006-06-06 16:26:28 · 19 answers · asked by cocoanutt 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
btw, my ex's fiance is just about at screwy as he is. She may be just as much to blame as he is. If I make a wrong turn, she's on the phone to him. Oh, and they live only 2 blocks away.
2006-06-06 17:03:05 · update #1
My ex-wife does the same,but she quit once I moved out of state. But she still uses the kids against me. My parents did the same to each other,that's why I don't do it to my kids. I guess what I am trying to say is you cant control what they do only what you do. Good Luck
2006-06-06 16:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by carpenterslavemoney 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get caller ID dont answer when he calls.
If he wants to talk to kids have them call back.
But not right away every time if there is no real question.
Then stop letting him know that hes driving you nuts, Thats what he wants.
Tell him thanks for keeping an eye out on everything if it ever comes up.
If he makes comments to the kids well what are the comments.....That sounds like a different problem.
His new wife will soon get very tired of him calling but be nice she will be around your kids now....
2006-06-06 23:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. I went through the same thing. My husbands ex always came by and made excuses she was there to see her son. eventually after what seemed forever, she gave up and my husband has no contact with her whats so ever, Maybe when she gets remarried she will get over all this and let everyone concerned have some peace. Good Luck!
2006-06-06 23:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pick up the phone when he calls for one thing. If it is something concerning the kids, he can leave a message and you can get back to him. As far as him driving by the house...get witnesses and get a restraining order. This is about as close to stalking as you can get. What I don't understand is the fact that he is getting married yet continues to harass you. Is he thinking something is going on and is going to catch you being a bad mom? Good luck, sweetie....hopefully it stops after he gets married...maybe you should say something to him about it in front of her and she could set him straight lol.
2006-06-06 23:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u treid talking to the bride to be. Why don't u have a talk with her about her soon to be.
If she knew what what was going on she maybe the one who could put a stop to this. If he was really into her he wouldn't do this, so maybe it's more then what u think he may still want u.
But u really should talk to her and tell her to stop her soon to be hubby from coimg around making touble( don't let him know ur gonna talk with her) just showup ( like he does) and tell her,,, if he's there OH WELL. She needs to know this is going on, he should be more into planning his wedding
2006-06-06 23:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one she is soooo stupid not to see whats going on anyway do them both a favor and change your phone number unlisted and get a caller id to your kids cell phone and tell him if he calls your kids more than so many times in a week and doesn't start talking to them about them you'll start recording him and take him to court! That should work maybe it will give them time for him to start ruining her life like he tryed to do you thankGod you and your kids are away from him you could always do what i did and move far away to if above doesn't work.
2006-06-07 00:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order, child visitations - also a answering machine or voice mail ---- that way you can screen calls (also keep records of his harassing calls - this will show a pattern of his behavior ....use this to prove your case in family court.) Don't argue with him - let him do his thing and use it against --- you keep record of his bad behavior to strengthen your case!
2006-06-07 00:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad, get a court order. If it continues after the wedding, talk to his new wife (if you are on good terms with her). She would probably be concerned about it, too.
2006-06-06 23:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cotton up to him.. take his calls, wave to him, call him and ask advice. It'll put the fiance in a tailspin and she'll being FORBIDDING him from contacting you! You'll have the two of them so at odds they won't have time to worry about you! (trust me, it works!).
2006-06-07 00:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his new wife, if she knows how "concerned" he is with what is going on in your life it might make his a little worse
2006-06-06 23:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by tatgirl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋