2006-06-06 16:26:15 · 75 answers · asked by Traviata 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I would just leave him, two wrongs don't make it right.
2006-06-06 16:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by ladeeluv76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cheating just because the other party has cheated never solves the problem but rather creates more problems. And walking out is not always the solution either although I know most would say ditch the dude. If you love the man which I feel you do but are hurting because of inappropriate behavior on behalf of the husband, try to talk through the problems and see if you can get to the root of the problems so you understand why he cheated to begin with. It is possible to forgive and yes, I know they say once a cheater always a cheater but that simply is not the case in all situations.with strong guidance and a good counselor as well as working together to rebuild not only the relationship but the trust in the relationship, it is possible through hard work to get things back on track, but try to remember not to point fingers and browbeat because true honest communication begins with but a single word and the willingness to work together as a joint unit rather than as separate units that are no part of a whole. and forgiveness does not mean forgetting but it does mean not wielding it as a weapon of further pain and torture. Good luck and keep me posted...you can e-mail me at ladywhiteheart@yahoo.com
2006-06-19 00:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by ladywhiteheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, before the divorce, that happened, and it only made me feel like crap. Two wrongs won't make things right, and you're taking the chance of him turning the negative issues in your relationship on you if you get caught. Guys have a tendency not to get caught until well into cheating, and females would get caught during the 1st or 2nd time. So, just think about what you want for your happiness, and go for it. He's not going to let that occur easily, but you can do it.
2006-06-19 18:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, 2 wrongs don't make a right. You'll only be hurting yourself. I have been there, caught my husband of 22 years cheating with a whore he worked with AND one he met on-line and I didn't cheat. I left, divorced his a**, left him with the bills, and got on with my life after that. I went back to school, got my degree, I've got a GREAT job, my OWN house and a new car(paid for) and I'm dating & having a great time!!!! AND I make sure that the guys I date aren't married .
2006-06-20 07:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by shgrbabe_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? And give the other fodder to throw at me later? No. Don't stoop to that level. Two wrongs don't make a right. Let him make the mistakes. In a divorce, infidelity isn't even a factor in a high majority of states including California. Although, if it shows detriment to children or abandonment of spouse for length periods of time or indications of a mental health issue, then you can take it for a mile.
2006-06-20 08:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him first. Sounds cliche but two wrongs don't make a right. You will have to live with the fact that you cheated too. Get a divorce or work it out - don't cheat.
2006-06-06 16:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not have affair if my husband was cheating on me. i would just live him. 2 wrongs dont make a right,
2006-06-20 06:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by daydreamer315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that nagging question. I am sure this is a major debate on here. Well, it is what you think is right for yourself. If you like getting back at people, then you will. BUT, it will not solve a thing, except involve yet one more person, and lower you to his level.....But then again, it could give you the feeling of HAH, got you! so whichever you like, it certainly is not for someone to decide for you. Look inside your true self, you have the answer.
2006-06-20 03:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by sokrvolleyhoopsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! don't ever think of doing that to yourself. at the end of the day you will only regret your actions. sincerely, we women at times push our husbands to doing things ordinarily they wouldn't do. have you talked to him about his actions? if you haven't, i will advise you seat him down and talk things over with him. ask him why he is cheating on you? ask him what you have done to him to deserve such a treatment from him?like i always say, communication is very important in a marriage. show him love always and i bet you he will change. but please don't belittle yourself by having an affair. the Bible is against this. you need to protect your integrity. all the best
2006-06-19 22:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by minny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, why is he cheating on you? The truth is if you do not take care of your man, he will cheat on you. If I did not cook for my husband, pleasure him on regular basis, he would leave me too. Really, think about it. If you keep your husband happy, he will not leave you. Do not point a finger at him, look what coused it.
2006-06-06 16:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by my name is what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a destructive thing to do. It would only make you feel dirty and used when you wanted to do it for revenge and to make yourself feel better. It doesn't work that way. If your husband is cheating, kick him to the curb and move on with your life. I hope there aren't children involved, these things confuse and hurt them deeply. Bless your heart. I have been in your shorts and know the pain in your heart. If I can help please e-mail me. Nana
2006-06-20 16:25:36 · answer #11 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋