Ok, sounds like a really easy question, but my contention is that most people don't have a clue what love really is. I read questions on here from women saying, he beats me but I really love him, I do't think these women are driven by love, I think they are drive by lust and romance, they don't have a concept of love. the romance part is hanging on though all the bad times, that isn't love that is romance. the lust is her doing without until another Mr Right comes along. a female knows you have an interest in her, she starts playing hard to getm using the guy while he chases her, that's romance, after she submits, the romance is gone, there is no love to hold it together and she gets bored and seeks romance outside the marriage. it's all romance folks no love in it at all. someone please make a good argument it isn't all romance. (which is a bottomless pit).and lust.
2006-06-06 16:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are right most people have no clue what love is they only know what lust and romance are. Yet it is not only women that are driven by romance and lust. Although what you described happens more and more, most will never realize it and they will deny it. They will deny that they are not in love. What most don't realize is that when most people try to describe love they describe lust that sometimes becomes a romance. For some will last a while until they realize that they don't love the person that they are with. Then there are those few who realize that love is when you can look at the one you (love) into there eyes and you never want to look away, and that when the one you love is in the room you both can't help but gaze into each others eyes until one leaves when you want to be with each other just to be looking into each others eyes. When you are upset and just by looking into there eyes they calm you . This is when you know your in love.
2006-06-06 16:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I'm sure several people will disagree with my answer, but this is a question I have to answer from my heart. Most people don't know what true love is because they don't know who love is... God is love. Since the fall of man there has been a lack of love in many aspects of a human life. Since that break in direct communion with God, people have strayed further and further away from their Maker. Society has pushed people into "becoming their own person" and "being independent". While there's nothing wrong with this socially, people have also done this spiritually. To know love you must know who you are in God, and you have to be dependent on Him only. God is the one and only place anyone will ever find pure, unhindered love. Until they can recognize that love, how can they recognize the love of a person. With that kind of love one can see past one's faults and love them for who they are. Now this doesn't mean that women who get beaten should look past that issue... they should actually do the opposite. God only wants the best for us. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." True love is in these things. If someone says they love you, yet they keep none of these descriptions of love sacred, how can they truly love you. They can't.
On to the next question. The "playing hard to get" women do is wrong. Now women ought not be "easy" either, a man needs that chase, its in his warrior heart to capture a woman. However, she shouldn't play with his heart. If she is harder to get than others for the right reasons, I think that shows respect for not only the guy, but for herself. Lust has to be recognized and killed. Its one thing to think someone's attractive, its something completely different to lust after that someone. God's Word says in Matthew 5:28 says: "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." This goes both ways with men and women. And everyone knows that in Exodus 20:14, the seventh of the Ten Commandments says: "You shall not commit adultery." Plain and simple.
Lastly, lust should never be mistaken for romance. Romance is a lively attachment between lovers, and thus not sinful. While lust is an intese unbridled sexual desire, which if done outside of marrital bounds, is indeed sinful.
In this arguement I must say that you are correct about lust being a "bottomless pit". That is very true. Lusting is breaking a commandment set in place by God, thus leaving an impure heart. Matthew 5:8 says: "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." Someone with an impure heart that doesn't follow God's commands will be sent to hell... the bottomless pit.
2006-06-07 07:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by heavendreamer84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok there is no right answer to this question. But to me love is when someone gives me the feeling of completeness. Of security and contentment, passion and desire, security and compassion, understanding and loyalty, strength and trust.
its like when he wakes into the room and takes my breath away and makes me feel at ease. How when he holds me I just melt into his arms and the rest of the world doesn't really seem to matter anymore and I just know everything is going to be ok. Knowing that even when we argue he's still there for me unconditionally. That's what love is to me.
2006-06-06 16:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that your wrong in a way, I think you can Love someone even if they cheat on your or abuse you wether physicall or emotional, dont ever say you wouldnt be with someone if they beat you or cheated on you, because unless you have been in that situation, you dont KNOW...... Love is when you wake up in the morning thinking about that specail someone, when you lay down at night you think of that specail someone, when you havent seen them that day, or that week, and then when you do, you still get that feeling in the pit of your stomach, thats love.After being with someone who has hurt you for so long, we feel know one else wants us, or needs us, or will love us.... anyways I didnt answer your ? but I had to comment
2006-06-06 16:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they don't leave because of security or fear. They are afraid to be on their own and some are just scared of what will happen if they do leave.
Are you bitter about something? Not all women are as you just described.
2006-06-06 16:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋