What is a good decade to have a kid in, 20s, 30s, 40s,etc. Why?

Answer 1

I think it's best in your early 30's:

1) You know yourself. You've been able to develop as a person so that you can emotionally support and guide another human being as he/she grows up.
2) You are probably more financially secure than you were in your 20's. You have graduated from college and have established yourself in some career...
3) A study done by economists showed a large decrease in lifetime earnings for each year BEFORE 29 that a woman had a child. In other words, over a woman's lifetime, she will earn more if she has a child at 28 instead of 27, 27 instead of 26, etc.
4) Your eggs are still good. The risk of fetal abnormalities sky rockets after 40 when your eggs are too dang old. And who the hell wants to be paying for college when they're 58-62?? NOT ME - I want to be sitting on a beach, debt free!!

Answer 2

30

Answer 3

I had my kids in the 1980s. I think the decades you mention are a little too far in the future (or the past).

Oh, I guess you mean what chronological age? I was in my 30s when I had my four kids. I wouldn't have been ready earlier, and I'm glad i didn't stretch it out any further. But I've known people who have become first-time parents in their 40s and even, by adoption, in their 50s. It's challenging, but they say it keeps them feeling young. If I could pick an "ideal" age to start your family, I'd say mid to late 20s. You've had time to grow up and stabilize financially, but you're still young enough to chase them around.

Answer 4

I had my first at 29 and the second at 34. My 20's were spent having fun and having time with my husband without the responsibilities and time commitment that comes with having kids. I think there is never really a "right" or "perfect" time to have kids. You just do it and do the best you can and give 'em lots of love.

Answer 5

I believe late 20's early 30's it's the best time to have kids...

Answer 6

My wife and I had five children right after we were married. My wife was 20 for our first, 22 for our second, 24 for our third, 26 for our fourth, and 28 for our fifth. I was two years older than her for each one. Couples who wait to have their family until they are in their mid-thirties and are financially well off have the following things to consider:

1. They will be so entrenched in their respective careers, they will neglect to spend the necessary time with their children, giving them instead "things" rather than their most valuable assest--their time. Their children will generally come second to their careers. BIG mistake.

2. Women who wait until their 30s to become mothers, have a much, MUCH higher rate of birth defects and health-related problems for themselves.

3. If you have your first child at 35, then when THEY start kindergarten you are 40, junior high you're 46-47, when they graduate from high school you are 54-55, and when THEY get married and have children (if they follow your bad example) you will never know your grandchildren because you will either be dead or senile.


On the other hand if you have your children when you are young (as you are supposed to) then you get to grow up with your kids. You spend thousands and thousands of hours together playing ball, going to the beach, enjoying amusement parks, going camping, attending their school activities, going on Scout outings, playing in the park, all the while WITH them, dad is their coach, mom teaches them life skills, not some baby sitter or day care operator, etc...

Your sons will learn from their father how to be good fathers themselves, they will grow up loved, they will not feel any need to join a gang, run around with trash that drink, takes drugs, get into trouble at school or with the law, or get involved in moral mischief.

Your daughters will KNOW their father and mother love and care for them, they will be less likely to turn to strangers for physical love and affection, they will most likely NOT get pregnant prior to marriage, they will learn how a REAL family functions, they will develop self respect and a sense of self worth, they will spend so much time with their mothers that they will understand what it means to be a valuable, moral, virtuous young lady and as a result become a mother who teaches HER daughters the same high and lofty values.

Take it from someone who has some REAL experience in this field, unlike most of the teenagers who offer their opinions on questions like this and don't have the foggiest clue what they are even talking about. Having your family when you are young is FAR better for your family than believing the lie that you have to have a lot of money to provide for your children and ALL their material needs. NO child ever grows up grateful that mom and dad bought them a lot of stuff. But ALL children grow up grateful that mom and dad spent their TIME with them.


This may be the most valuable piece of advice you will ever receive in your lifetime.

Answer 7

I think it's different for everyone. I hope to have children around throughout all of those years. I think the 20s would be the best though.

Answer 8

For us, the 30s were the obvious choice. Old enough to make mature choices, and properly raise our child. Not so old that we will be on the edge of retirment when he graduates.

Answer 9

I think the sooner, the better because with everything like college tuition, insurance, and the cost of living rising it's going to be a fortune to raise you and your child decently.

Answer 10

Why? Are you planning some time travel in the near future?