2006-06-06 15:52:47 · 23 answers · asked by johal j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hang you head in shame.
2006-06-06 15:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason you strayed, I assume things were less than perfect with your relationship, you must tell him, lies have a habit of coming up and biting you when you least expect it and you will never feel 100% happy hiding such a secret.You need to explain why it happened and be prepared for the backlash.
I assume you don't make a habit of sleeping around otherwise you would have used protection,(something else to think about, get checked out for STD's).Trust me this cannot be kept a secret forever and he has a right to know and make his own decision as to whether he wants to bring up someone elses 's child before he AND the child bond.Think of the damage it would cause the baby not just you and your partner if it all came out later!
2006-06-11 00:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly are you sure that the baby is not your partners?
The most important thing to think about in this situation is not you, the other guy or your partner it is the baby. The baby deserves to grow up knowing who its father is - if you lie to your partner then your child is going to think the wrong man is its dad and you are always going to be worried about the chance your partner could find out.
Find out for sure when you concieved and think very carefully about the consequences of lying in this situation.
I am really sorry for you. Good luck.
2006-06-06 19:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly, i'm dealing with the same difficulty. i became with my husband for 9 years and we had fertility issues, so we not in any respect conceived, even after IVF. when we divorced very last twelve months I met somebody else faster than I must have i think, and four months into courting, i got here across i'm pregnant. i'm no longer 13 weeks and characteristic been scuffling with even if I ought to tell my ex, and at the starting up i presumed I owed it to him to a minimum of be the single which he exhibits out from.. yet as time went on i realized, theres a reason that we are no longer mutually anymore and not in any respect being with someone ability the job to fill them in on existence activities is not any longer mandatory. He doesn't want to entice close, and also you want to highlight searching after that infant! :)
2016-12-06 11:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is right..be honest, it will save your life from too much ridicule...face the fact that you have cheated and you have committed the a mistake. your partner has the right to know. no one has ever forced you to commit such, it was your choice so be ready for the consequences...no one should judge you for what you are or for what you have done. one mistake should not define your whole character, learn from the situation and go on with your life...focus on the baby in your womb...the child has nothing to do with your problem, you choose it, you let the child live...
2006-06-06 17:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by AnGeL Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are not married to your partner but am not sure if you have other kids by him. If you do, it will be harder to break apart. It would be utterly insensitive to lead him to believe this child is his first of all. Secondly, I think it is your responsibility to the child (and your partner) to let him/her know who the real father is.
You say you can't face your partner, but that is a selfish excuse. You are thinking about the consequences of your action and do not want to face them because of how it will make you feel. No matter what his responses will be, you owe it to him to confess.
2006-06-06 16:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say that this is not going to be an easy task for you; however you should tell your partner and pray that he can understand ... i just want to wish you the best of luck! and hope all goes well with and your relationship...
2006-06-06 18:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can leave your current partner just tell him you have emotional issues you need to sort out and need to be alone or you can go along with him being the father but you will be caught that way because one day when blood tests are revealed he will know he is not the father,you ashame us girls who do the right thing,bad girl hope he does the dirty on you whore
2006-06-06 18:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...........WHAT A PROBLEM YOU HAVE. THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY IS BE HONEST IF NOT YOUR LIFE, YOUR CHILD'S LIFE AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE AWFUL. KEEPING A SECRET THAT BIG TAKES A TOLL ON YOUR BODY AND MIND. YOU HAVE MADE THE MISTAKE NOW ITS TIME TO THINK OF YOU AND YOUR UNBORN CHILD AND THE PARTNER. HE DESERVES TO KNOW THE TRUTH, YOU HAVE ALREADY TAKEN A LOT AWAY FROM HIM DONT TAKE AWAY HIS CHOICE OF HIM STAYING OR LEAVING. BE HONEST THAT'S THE LEAST YOU CAN DO.
GOOD LUCK I HOPE YOU DO THE RIGHT THING AND IF THAT IS TO TELL HIM I HOPE HE FORGIVES YOU AND WORK THROUGH IT TOGETHER.
2006-06-06 16:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by mrsurgtech09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you've got some hard thinking to do. Weigh up your options. Who do you want to be with? Who do you love? Who really wants to be with you and care for you and the baby? Sometimes its best to make a life on your own rather than be with someone for the wrong reasons.
2006-06-13 08:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gonna find out sooner or later so you've only got 2 choices really, either leave him and move away or just tell him outright. It's not really a problem you can ignore and hope it goes away and i'd say sooner rather than later
2006-06-06 16:01:49 · answer #11 · answered by sundancer332003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋