i am a pregnant teen and nobody ever suspected it to be me...how did it feel for u as a highschool teen to be pregnant? Does n e body have n e advice or n e tips on what i should do? because people now seemed embarrassed of me...i really don't care but i dont like that.
2006-06-06 15:41:04 · 16 answers · asked by sexielyse0604 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I got pregnant my first year of college and I was 18. Nobody cared that I was married and happy and stuff, they just see a young mother and think the worst. And it is sad that society is like that. There are a lot of parents in their 30's who shouldn't have kids! But teens are automatically "bad parents" and "troubled kids" I am a big believer that age doesn't matter, what matters is if you can give your baby the best like it deserves. My husband is 7 years older than me and he has a great job and so much love for me and our daughter. I am able to be a stay at home mom and him and my daughter are my life! Now just because I am 19 does that make me a bad mom?? No. People ask me if I am out shopping without my husband if I am still with the dad, or if I even know who the dad is. And it bothers me a lot. But I don't live my life for them. Do what is best for you and that miracle that is inside of you. Don't let anyone tell you what you should do because only you know what is best for that baby and yourself. Make sure though you try to stick it out and stay in school. A baby doesn't mean the end of your life, it is the start of a new path. I have friends older than me that ask if I would rather be partying and if I am said for everything I have to miss, but I don't miss anything. I saw her first smile, and her first words, and the first time she crawled, and stood, and I will see the first time she walks. If you need to talk to someone who has heard it all, email me at linds_a_lot@yahoo.com. Good Luck!!
2006-06-06 16:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by linds_a_lot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky question. I am a mother to a pregnant teen. We found out she was pregnant 1 day before her 18 birthday. She just graduated last week from high school. She is now 4 1/2 months pregnant. Her friends have been very supportive of her so I truly sorry that you are having such bad luck. If they were your friends they would not be embarrassed of you!
2006-06-07 13:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by skittzzochik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't pregnant in high school, but I got pregnant shortley after. I had just graduated (4.0 GPA and with honors). No one thought it would be me either. A friend from school actually called me and said "I heard a rumor about you. I heard you were pregnant, but I said no way.. She isn't stupid enough to get pregnant." There is a stigma to unmarried pregnant girls. Especially since you are young. For people to be shocked- Dont be offended. There is a stereotype for the "type of girl that gets pregnant" and they just dont think you fit into that. I would use it as a tool for your peers. Let them realize that it can happen to anyone. White, Black, Hispanic. Poor, Rich, Cheerleader, Gangster, whatever. The type of girl who gets pregnant is the one has sex, especially unprotected and without birth control. It dosent matter what they look like, what their grades are, etc. People are going to say "she's the pregnant one, or she's the one with a kid" But it comes with the territory. Dont act embarassed by it, and embrace it. The more open you are, the less there is to gossip about. The hardest part for me, is when the parents of friends think you are a bad influence. What you need to do is be a great mom. Dont drag the baby out all hours of the night. Keep him/her clean, fed, safe. Dont give people anything to talk about.
2006-06-07 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by B26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends got pregnant our Sr. year...she got pregnant in August and had the baby in May, so she was LITERALLY pregnant the entire school year! Everyone was really cool with it! And the girls, especially, were really interested in her pregnancy! We would always talk to her belly and she would let us feel it kick...I thought it was pretty cool! No one put her down for getting pregnant or even treated her differently (for that matter)! She ended up having a girl! We told her that we want her to bring her daughter to our "reunions" when we have them because she was LITERALLY with us our whole Sr. year!!
As for your situation...screw everyone else! If they are embarrassed to be seen with you just because you're pregnant, then you don't need to be their friend anyway! It's their loss! It's not like being pregnant is contagious! And just think about it this way... in a few months(?) you'll have someone that's all yours and who will love you no matter what (and will probably thank you for not aborting him/her) Just think on the bright side and everything will work out! It will probably be hard at first, but you'll get the hang of it and your life will be great! And always remember - your child is a gift from GOD and no one can take that away from you! Congratulations and good luck...
2006-06-07 00:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to be pregnant in highschool. Kids are so mean. I was pregnant at 15, then had twins just after I turned 16. Don't listen to what they say. Anybody that doesn't stick by with you through this isn't as good a friend as they say they are. True friends stick with you, through anything. I could go on for a long time like this, so instead, I'll say, if you want to talk, e-mail me at dannysidenticaltwin@yahoo.com I'll be more than happy to help you.
2006-06-07 00:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Twin Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Okay, don't be embarrased if people found out that you're pregnant. If you think it is inconvenient for you to go to school with that bulge in your tummy, you can tell your parents to enroll you in an institution that helps pregnant teens or a home school. In that way, you will never feel annoyed or embarrassed. If you have more questions, you can write or join me at Reyes_Crueta@yahoogroups.com I hope i helped you with this lil advices.
2006-06-07 06:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by CaRoLiNe-GLeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my daughter when I was 17 (she's 14 now). I had a lot of friends before, but they disappeared - quickly - after I became pregnant. I resented that for a long time...
(*Do whatever you can to make sure you get your highschool degree....I finished mine and graduated with my class, but I haven't been back since - and have no contact with any of them.)
Things change a lot out of high school. You can do something with your life, don't dwell on the idiots you go to school with. Apparently they were not good friends to begin with.
2006-06-06 22:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by sprklng74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give a sh** about what people think. I didn't I had my first baby my Senior year in HS. So what I did is I proved all the statistics wrong. I finished HS, went to collage,got a degree,married my baby's daddy,own my own house,my own car,and all by the time I was 21 not many people can say that even without kids. So don't let it bother you keep striving for the best. Good luck.
2006-06-06 22:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by ~Genie~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here's the thing.....I got pregnant when I was 17..so I know the feeling but anyways.....Most of the girls in high school have sex, -ok-, not just you, you just happened to get pregnant. That does tn' make them any better than you because they didn't....they have sex too didn't they? And yes people will be embarrassed to be with you.... you'll soon find out who your real friends are. But just watch, after you have your baby, see how many people come talk to you....it's ridiculous
2006-06-06 22:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by AuroraBorealis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not the only one who this has happened to. I think that you should stay in school for one thing. It wont do the baby any good if you dont have a diploma-what kind of job could you get as a dropout. Everyone else needs to be told to mind their own business. It happened and it will happen again(not to you perhaps) but it wll happen again. Hold your head up and take care of that baby.
2006-06-06 22:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by hatingmsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋