She thinks I am being insensitive because I request sex!!! Am I?
2006-06-06 15:40:43 · 21 answers · asked by alanstorment 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she's having issues severe enough to merit that surgery -- then you're being a jerk. Try to flip the situation -- you're in a lot of pain, you're scared, and the very parts of you that are required to have sex are the cause. Now, your significant other wants you to play -- Hel-lo? Think on it, and try to be a bit more supportive. It's the equivalent to you being castrated -- how in the mood would you be?
2006-06-06 15:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by witchrhizu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I was going through this, the last thing on my mind would be sex. I would say that yes, you are prolly being insensitive. Put yourself in her position, how would you feel if you had to lose a part of you that makes you a man. I'm not saying that having a hysterectomy will make her any less of a woman, but it is a lot to digest going through something of this nature. Just lay off the sex and be there for her emotionally.
2006-06-06 22:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being insensitive if sh has to have a hysterectomy due to female problems then she is more then likely in pain. Try to be more understanding, put yourself in her shoes for a minute and see if you would like it if she requested this of you when you were in pain. Hope all works out for her and you.
2006-06-06 22:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by MaryAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get with it!
Have you ever thought that maybe she's not up for it because the thought of never being able to have children after her op is just too much for her at the moment?
Don't demand or request sex at this point in time - you are being insensitive. She probably just needs you to be affectionate and gentle. Show her that you love her, put your arms around her. You'll know when she's ready for the rest. If you're not willing to do all of the above then I hope she dumps you on your ***!
2006-06-07 07:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by kissshot85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a hysterectomy is a big and emotional stresser for a woman. Thats like ripping the testicles of YOU. Those organs represent the femine part of us and shes getting them taken away. Hold off on the sex for a while, until this ordeal is over. I wouldnt call you insensitive, just human. But shes getting a treasure taken away from her, and you seem to be putting it aside for self pleasure. Just give her time.
2006-06-06 22:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Judy Kick80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are being a jerk. She's having female problems HELLO it probably hurts her right now to have intercourse. If you are only with her because of the sex then you are low. Have some compassion for her. She is going thru alot and after the surgery its going to take a few months for her to start feeling better. Try and be a man and just be there because you love her and try to show a little support. GROW UP life is not all about SEX...
2006-06-06 23:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by patty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being VERY insensitive!! Give her time to come to grips with her problems. It's a HUGE deal for her and this is the time she needs you to be supportive and caring not in sexual overdrive. Her hormone levels will mellow out with time and after she heals, she will want to have sex again.
If she is having a hard time coming to terms with this, have her go to www.hystersisters. com. It is a very wonderful and supportive web site. I'm sure the women there will answer her questions and help her come to terms with it.
If you can't be there for her and be supportive, then you need to walk away and let her find someone who will!! Best of Luck to her!!
2006-06-06 22:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by AuntAng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You @$@!@# idot. Yes, you are insensitive to the point that I am ashamed. There are a few times as a couple that you should simply shut your mouth and do as you're told.
Be supportive, be understanding, don't make demands of her, especially about sex. Show her that you care, and that you are there for her. This doesn't count as fore-play. Do this for as long as it takes.
2006-06-06 22:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by something 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are. Is she having pain - does sex make it worse - does she have bleeding? - In this case, I think you should be as understanding as possible and let her decide when she feels up to it.
give yourself a helping hand in the meantime. Also, you could do it in other ways that may not be as uncomfortable for her. Talk about some of them.
2006-06-06 22:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by casey54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her having a hysterectomy is kinda like you getting a castration...would you want to have sex with her if you were facing a similar procedure?
2006-06-06 22:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by stacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋