Separeted with children and he's acting like one of them?

Question

i'm seperated nearly a year. he won;t pay maintence or ring to talk to his children. They are desparetly upset and wondering why Daddy won't talk to them.He sends letters to the children telling them what a bad person I am and how many gifts he has for them . I left because of mental & physical violence and the fact that he told me and the children he was in love with somebody else. Changed his mind after I left ( about 2 hours ) now I'm living with the consequences. He tried to commit suicide, checked himself out of hospital, had police loking for him, told all the neighbours that his father had recently died ( not true ).Actually held a memorial!!
Informed social welfare that he was giving me money ( also not true, hasn't paid a penny since I left) has just bought a new house & business in different state while I am left with the reposession of family home and all previous debts amounting to €60 thousand euros. What do I do I do to stop this PHSYCO

Answer 1

sick social services on his ***, seek full and exclusive custody, and don't expose your children to this psycho.

Answer 2

well leave it the court to get your money.....HA HA HA that is a lsigh, but you will more than likely not ever receive a dime from him.If all he is going to do is badmouth you then don't let any communication happen at all between him and the kids. Tell them that he is either too busy or the truth that he is an *** and leave it at that.As far as the gifts go if he really has them he can mail them, (don't expect ups at your door any time soon)As far as the house and his new business goes unfortunately that is something you will have to take up in divorce court or just deal with it on your own. Cuz truth is he is worth nothing even if he has a multi billion company somewhere. There is no stopping the psycho but you can invite his dad to the neighborhood where all attended his memorial. LOL give everyone a good laugh and let his neighbors see how much of an *** he is.Throw a prty in his dads honor and laugh your *** off all the way home.

Answer 3

First, sit your children down and talk to them about what is going on. I don't know their ages but adjust the conversation accordingly. Older children can definately understand more about what is going on than younger children.

Next, save all the letters. If necessary, these letters will come in handy in court to provide evidence against your ex. Document everything you can. (Suicide attempts, anything involving the police, the memorial service) You cannot access his medical records, but if you have newspaper clippings, dates, etc., the judge can check out the validity. Be certain of your facts because you want to prove he is unfit, rather than you trying to smear his name in the mud.

Next, know what your child support agreements, separation agreements, divorce decrees say. If he is allowed visitation, document when he supposed to visit or call and whether he did or not. If the court has ordered support, he cannot pay it directly to you. It must be paid through the courts and follow the proper path. If he claims he paid you directly, he is responsible for proving he did (you don't have to prove he didn't).

If he is in violation of any court orders, contact your local D.A. or your case worker for assistance. Most states charge interest on late child support. I am twenty-six and my father still has his wages garnished for back child support. My mother never pushed too hard for the support when I was a child, because she knew she could collect it whenever she wanted. Now she gets a check every month and takes his tax returns (which paid my taxes this year:)

If you think it is necessary, petition the court for a protection order to protect you and your children.

Put your children first. Contact your local Court, District Attorney, or case worker to find out more about your options.

Answer 4

keep him away fromy our children,start a fresh life even if you ahve to rent out a house,dont accept letters from him dont redirect your mail,dont accept calls from him and get a court order for maintenance,the kids are better without there father and they will understand this as they get older in the mean time spending as much time with your children will help

Answer 5

I don't know about English law, but .. I am sure that you could shoot him and claim he attacked you. Works for me, but get your story straight before the police show up. YOU really do have a mess there...I feel for you, but have no good solution, other than having him committed.

Answer 6

Only thing you can do is go to court, or hire a hitman.