the girl of my dreams, any advice?

Question

So, i'm 23 and from England. When I was 19 I met this Russian girl for a first date, we went out
and i found out she had a boyfriend (who was 32 and living in russia, but we hung out as friends...
it went great though, we hung out for a few hours at the marina, i dropped her home, then i called
her a few minutes later to see if she wanted to do anything else, she invited me in, we stayed up
til 8am talking then she went to uni, i went home... 3 days later we hung out again, and we stayed
together for about 2 weeks... After the first 4 days we did sleep together, but then we didn't again,
she said she just wanted to be friends and we stayed together, then she had to move out, whilst she
was taking summer exams, I looked for a new appartment, which she instantly accepted and still lives
in the appartment i picked out for her, after these 2 weeks she was going home for a couple of months
to russia, her BF had been in hospital (sick... i dont know why - he was depressed alot apparently)...
During this time, I Missed her like crazy, the day after she went, she called me to see if I was good,
not being able to take my town anymore, I took the opportunity to travel to the USA, i was there for
3 months... during this time we spoke a little, I sent her an email telling her how much i felt and
that i couldn't forget about her... then 3 months passed and i came home... i actually had her key to
her appartment because she let me use it when she went to russia so we had to meet up on the day she
came back to the UK so i could give it to her... when i met her, she was with an older friend, at
first i thought it was her BF, but it was a friend of his, i gave her the key, we drunk coffee, I left...
A few days later we met up, at our favourite restuarant, she told me how when she went back, she had
called her boyfriend my name, he got upset and forbid her from seeing me when she came back.. literally
we'd meet up a few days every month and he'd always be calling her and stressing her out, she would break
down, it was pretty hard on her, and hard on me too. We saw eachother a few times, I took her on a trip
to see my old town, she loved it, she had said she loved me once before... it was sorta unspoken and
unshown between the two of us... her BF wouldn't let us hang out, he said, she could leave him for anyone
as long as it wasn't me... Anyway she thought about leaving him, I thought she would, I went back to america
for 3 months when she went away for christmas, the next time I spoke to her, she was getting married, and
she did... I saw her once after those 3 months... saw her wedding photos, she seemed unhappy, we hugged
and I left. I don't think we've spoken since, she spoke so fondly of me.. I just don't understand why
things happened like this... it's been 3 years since i first met her.. and a year and a half since i last saw
her, i can't get her out of my mind, i've dated 40 girls, had 3 relationships.. ugh... any advice?

Answer 1

goodness! i don't mean to be rude....but learn to summerize!

Answer 2

move on my friend...... she has make her choice and there is nothing you can do...... you can not live thru dreams...... and it is wrong to even think about contacting her if she is married..... sorry, but that is just the way it is..... I am sorry you are going thru this but you need to put her in her proper place, a fond memory..... I cant tell you how to forget her, if you loved her that much it is going to be hard..... but 3 years is long enough to grieve..... stop comparing other girls to her...... make a list of her bad points, even if they are small ones, and then look at it and burn the list.... sounds strange but it might help..... it will burn those few things into your memory, not so you can feel bad about her but that you will know she was NOT perfect...... and it will help you give other girls a least a chance at your heart.......
God bless

Answer 3

you go find her and take her away from her place of stay and you reassure her that you will look after her and make her happy if you truley believe she is your soal mate and one true love go get her,because you see young russian women and forced into arranged marriages ones where thetre is no love and the men are nasty tot hem and treat them like slaves,she would not want to have gotton married but she would of had to possibly even to get out of her country,seek her out when she is on her own get the details and tell her how you feel and what you want to do dont leave it any longer you might loose her forever and always left wondering what if,go now go start searching for again

Answer 4

that must have taken you forever to type.... anyways you have to move on obviously there was something wrong with her if she slept with you while she Had a boyfriend it was doomed once you two crossed that line you would have never be able to trust her in a committed relationship because she cheated once before if it happened once it could happen again

Answer 5

O MY THAT WAS LONG!! Sweetie she is married now you have to move on!! It sucks but that is what you have to do. You will find love again!!

Answer 6

honey, please go see a counselor for y our own peace of mind. you need closure or you will never be able to achieve a healty realationship.

Answer 7

you might have wanted to shorten that cause it made no sense

Answer 8

get over her bozo she is married