I caught my husband jerking off to nude pics of grls on the internet & it really bothered me--would would i do

Question

I understand that men jerk off and I love seeing my husband jerking off in bed and blah blah. But, I woke up earlier then normal and went in the living room and caught my husband jerking off to the internet and instead of turning me on it really bothered me to where I tried to talk to him and he was upset b/c he was embarressed and I had a look on my face of disgust. And we have been arguing about it on and off and I just don't know what to do. He has playboys and porn and we watch them together, but I felt like he could have come in the bedroom to enjoyed me instead of skiny chics on the internet(pics only).

Answer 1

The only way to solve this problem to give your husband a swift kick in the testes.

Answer 2

The only real problem in the whole thing is that if the guy knows that looking at porn is hurting his wife/partner, then he should try to stop, or at the very least, talk to her about it and try to see her side. It's not the looking at the porn that's bad, it's disregarding her feelings, which justified or not, count. But then again...
there may be nothing wrong with a man watching porn. Men like naked women. that's it, kind of how women like to shop, men like to watch naked women. They know what they have at home, and they know what they can only window shop for. It's not cheating, while most men would initially think the idea of being with a porn star is a great one, once they use their "real" brain, they know that is not the type of woman they want to marry and have a family with. Maybe there is nothing wrong with it and can be quite helpful in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Can be addicting though. Some get addicted to it. Its a brain thing. The hypothaulmus creates neuro-protiens (neuro-peptides) which are chemical protiens created to deliver messages to cells throughout the body. The cells then become addicted to the neuro-peptides that they recieve more of. Hence = chemical addiction to chemicals produced by their own brain. You probably don't really fit into the equasion, since you are responsible for him creating different neuro-peptides, which he is also addicted to

Answer 3

It sounds to me like you are saying you have a problem with the secrecy, not the act, itself. If that's the case, then it's understandable why you would feel hurt and disgusted. You feel that you have opened the lines of communication between you and shared in sexual exploration together only to have him exclude you from this aspect of his personal enjoyment. Of course that hurts. I have never been in that position, but I think I would try to calm down and discuss with him *why* this bothers you and determine if there is a way for you both to reach a compromise. His willing (or unwillingness) will be the deciding factor in how you ultimately handle this.

Best regards

P.S. I also think if this situation was reversed (you were the husband who caught your wife looking at male porn without you) the responses would be very different.

Answer 4

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I caught my husband jerking off to nude pics of grls on the internet & it really bothered me--would would i do
I understand that men jerk off and I love seeing my husband jerking off in bed and blah blah. But, I woke up earlier then normal and went in the living room and caught my husband jerking off to the internet and instead of turning me on it really bothered me to where I tried to talk to him and he...

Answer 5

It was probably a little more exciting to him to be doing something covert. The morning times are usually very tough for men. They are at the peak of their sexual drive for the day. If he has porno, I say let him slide on this. You happened to be surprised by it so you were hurt. He was obviously embarrassed so he is probably not handling it well, so you are the one that make this all painless or you can let it continue to fester and hurt your relationship. This is a lot to ask, but the faster you can get water under the bridge the stronger your relationship grows.

Answer 6

My husband has done this sort of thing for our entire marriage! Oh gee whiz! Only almost 30 years...it is a ho hum now. So, sorry! Men are like that, yeah, they are. It used to bother me some, but I think he has been faithful all these years. I have my own fantasies now....I am above average in looks, by the way so that is not the real problem, it is with THEIR problem! Or normalcy, whichever!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

We all need time just to be alone. Be grateful that his secret life is only jerking off. He could be out chasing ladies but he's home with you. Cut him some slack. It's very embarassing to get caught.

Answer 9

Let it go. Men just need a release from time to time and don't want to bother you. Would you want him jumping you every day when you weren't in the mood? If it doesn't get in the way of you getting yours, let it be. I'm sure he would get turned on catching you masterbating sometime...maybe to a hot movie when you 'thought' he was asleep. ;-)

Answer 10

sometimes men need to blow off steam and relax and they want a quick release its OK too be upset or bothered but just think you would want him to jerk off to pics insted of with a real chick right? let it go and apologize hes just being a man and getting it off in a reasonable way! and yes I'm a girl

Answer 11

Don't let it get to you, it sounds like you and your husband has a wonderful sex life...he just maybe wanted to have a fantasy about someone else...atleast it was pics only......If you dont get upset about playboys and porno, why get upset over this...and it is nothing to argue about....Let loose...let him jerk off and join in with him and you play around also while he is looking at pics...same as porno but without sound (sometimes)