Talking to people?

Question

Whenever I have to talk to someone about something important, I freeze up an I just ignore it. This is a bad habit. I want to be able to tell people my feelings and my thoughts. What can I do to help me talk to people about important things?

Answer 1

first try talking to stuff animals, then a baby, then ur siblings, then atart talking to close friends or family, then start meeting new people, and hten face ur fears

Answer 2

Perhaps you are unfamiliar with talking to people about important things; and a dry run would help. Like if you had to quickly get to an unfamiliar address right after work next week you could drive there today as a dry run. Since you want to talk about something important to you, you only need a good listener; althought they may feel free to ask questions for clarification. Also it is likely that you want to bring up the topic next time you meet and have plenty of time now to prepare. On a piece of paper list only the key points you wish to discuss and keep it as simple as possible. The very first item may be to ask if it is OK to discuss something important.

Sit down in front of a mirror (in private?) and use yourself as the presenter and your reflection as your audience. It may sound silly but it may also work. Discuss each item on your list from memory (but keep the list handy if needed). Repeat the exercise if necessary and make improvements if possible but don't memorize a speech. Now you know you CAN do it, right? The only question is how well?

Try the method on a live "audience" selecting a topic that is important, but not the most important topic bothering you. Notice how you will have to contend with the other person's reactions and questions but notice how you can actually take them in stride. Find ways to make the topic important for both of you. Success breeds success and soon you will be able to discuss any important topic with anyone you wish, because you believe it is possible and no presentation ever needs to be perfect. The other person will likely not permit you to present a canned speech. There is usually a lot of give and take if you can only get the conversation off to a good start and keep it on topic. Good luck. .

Answer 3

Sometimes when it comes to my feelings and emotions i have trouble communication as well; what i do is write the person a letter and write down everything i want to say that way i know what i want to talk about. Sometimes i even send the person the letter before i meet them to talk so that they know where im coming from. It works for me during really important emotional thins that i might want to get off my chest.

Answer 4

You probably like to keep thing bottled up and that is not healthy. You need to catch your self when you are doing your bad habit and stop your self. If you continue to do this, how would you show your feelings to your significant other, if you don't have one already. In relationships, people love to hear those kind of things, to make any relationship work you must share your feelings.

Answer 5

I have had this same problem for so long. But for me it's really with jobs and things like that. See I stutter so image how hard that is to really want to say something but can't. I'll tell you this. Practice is the key. Practice in the mirror or on a friend. Tell someone (that you trust) of the problem. If you need to talk more with me please email me at [e-mail]. my im is the same for aol.

Answer 6

I can understand what you mean because I am like that too.I realised that its really important to socialise and I was just being a coward.So I started taking things seriously and though shy and timid at first I managed to slowly start opening up.Start talking to people first it might help..good luck!!!

Answer 7

Try talking about how you are feeling. Don't say
"you do this or you do that"
say
"When xx happens, I feel yyyy" By putting the problem in the context of how it makes you feel rather than being confrontational it should help you.

Answer 8

Well you seem to have done a pretty good job here.

I wish I had good advice for this one...... maybe you can try to bring up the subject and say things that will get them to ask you your opinion...maybe it'll be easier if someone is asking you to speak...

Answer 9

sometimes frezzing up is the best,,, I mean don't tick them off just so you can get it off your chest... let them know you don't want to talk about something.

If they don't get the hint, walk away.

Answer 10

ohhh, not my falt