I've been married 6+yrs and have 3 children. Two years ago, he found out he was positive. I was angry, frustrated, scared and disappointed. I was ready to walk. Somehow, I've forgiven him and we've moved on. We're still together and I feel like an idiot. Why can't he understand my fears and not have to have sex with me? We've argued about this many times before. He said regardless of his condition, it doesn't take away his sexual desire. I cover up the fact during sex that I'm uncomfortable w/ him in spite of the fact that he uses a condom. I shudder going for check-ups now because I'm fearful of the day the doctor telling me something I won't be able to handle. I've prayed many times about this. What do you guys suggest?
2006-06-06 14:36:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe the two of you need to see a doctor together about this. With the advances in the medical world, I woman with HIV can have a healthy child after contracting the disease as long as she is being treated appropriately. Go to talk to a doctor now. After everything you two have been through, don't let sex end your marriage.
P.S. You are a very strong and amazing woman to stand by your man through his illness.
2006-06-06 14:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know how he got hiv positive in the first place, and it would scare me to death to about having sex, one slip of the condom and u have it, i dont know what to tell u, really i dont, all i can say is u are a very brave woman, my prayers are with u and hope the best for you, wish i had the answers u are looking for
2006-06-06 22:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a Doctor to see what they suggest. If the condom breaks, you can still contract HIV. Tough!
2006-06-06 21:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by exoticmojito 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to say no. This is life and death. If he is HIV he has no right asking you to do anything. Have you been tested? Do you know how long he has actually had the condition?
2006-06-06 21:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt have sex. especially for the childrens sake. i would invest in major rubbers and if he wont wear them then let him go now. make sure he doesnt kiss the kids either and be real careful.
you dont need it too. get checked asap
2006-06-06 22:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by suetogo1001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, couldn't have sex with him no matter how bad i wanted to. I don't think you should and risk your life you need to be there for your kids. Mommy and daddy can't both be sick that's not fair. What if you and your husband both pass away they would have lost both their parents. Let him know it's not fair to risk your life.
2006-06-06 21:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by daddys_girl319 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
considering you've got children together he should understand your concerns. there are other ways to make love to someone without penetration and the risks involved. unless he is a selfish person and doesn't care about infecting the mother of his children.
2006-06-06 21:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consult w/ your dr the risks involved and what r the safe ways to still enjoy a sex life
2006-06-07 10:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have sex with him. If he can't handle it then he will leave and you can find someone that you can make love to and enjoy rather than waiting for a death sentence from your doctor and being subjected to psychological terror
2006-06-06 21:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by aj351m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are living with a loaded gun....Protect yourself as much as possible. Abstinance is the only safe way for you to live. Watch his body fluids and be careful. Don't let the gun kill you.
2006-06-06 21:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋