If your husbands talks to other women on the phone is that consider cheating?

Question

It would not be the first time....after we have been together for 7 years

We have been together 7 years ....i have a daugther with him and one on the way...i am thinkin of leavin him when i have the baby..what should i do...he tells me he loves me..but i am confused.... the girl says they are friends, but he says that in a realtionship he doesnt believe in guy or girl Friends...

The girls that he talks to....he has not known her or them before me...but in the relationship..like when he goes out with his friends

Answer 1

Ask your Father God who constantly reveals to us the truth of the matter. It is something to love someone so badly and not feel you are being loved in return. It is also so easy for folk to holla ***give up****...In this you will have to listen to your heart. Being a woman there is something nagging and pulling at you telling you something is not right, or maybe telling you just the opposite... You have to make a decision here... Don't be so quick to end it... All things done in the dark will truly come to the light... No one on here can say he is definitely cheating,,, we dont know him...or you for that matter... We can only answer from our own experiences, but it will be up to you to draw the final conclusion and make that final decision...

Whatever decision you make please consult with the Father who knows all things....

Congrats on the baby!!!!!

Answer 2

I am a mother of three and had a similar problem when expecting #3. I did the whole pack up and move thing while pregnant thinking that I was doing the right thing. Here are some things to consider. First, prioritize. There are way more factors involved then your pride. think of the children is he a good father, does he provide for you and them, does he take time with you, does he put you and the family first? Second consider what you would be losing versus what you would be gaining. For example, as a single parent you are going to have to work harder to make ends meet so you will have less time to spend with your kids, is that something you would be willing to give up for your independence? I went back home after I realized that being a single parent was hard work, harder then I ever realized, and there are so many forced to do it, I was foolish to choose to be a single parent when my childrens father wanted to be a good provider, father and husband. Plus now I can do PTA, Girl Scouts, the Y and any other thing that I want to do with my kids. I'm not saying yeah or nay, I am just saying look at all that will change before you make your decision.

Answer 3

To be honest...Sit him down and tell him that things need to change with him.Him talking on the phone with chicks is not okay and you find it to be disrespectful.He should have more respect for you then doing some stupid **** like that.After all,you did have his 2 kids.What more could you do to make him happy?If this doesnt work,dont wait to leave when the baby is born.Leave now,you and your kids dont need to be around this.You should be treated better then this.Yea,you say he meet these chicks with his friends while going out with them.To me it just seems so wrong.He has a woman at home with 1 kids and another on the way.Shouldnt he be home with you and not partying.If he wanted to do this,he should have stayed single and not get married and being kids into this.Whats next,Sleeping with her?Then thats going to be okay in his eyes.I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

Well what is he talking to them about? If he is talking to the lady at the bank about something on your account then, NO. If he has gotten a girls phone number from somewhere like at work or a bar, then I would say YES. More then likely if this is the case then he is also seeing this women. IT IS CHEATING. Are you married? Well here in North Carolina if you have been together for 7 years or more you are considered MARRIED. So I would take him to the "cleaners"!!!!!

Answer 5

You need to tell him to stop talking to her or else you are seriously considering whether to invest any more of your time in energy in a marriage where he finds it more important to talk to a complete stranger he met out while with friends, than how his talking to her is effecting you mentally and emotionally.

I would also call the girl and ask her to stop talking to your husband. I would be honest with her that you are uncomfortable with the amount of time your husband speaks to her on the phone. I would tell her that you have one child and another on the way, and you would like her to discontinue any contact she has with him, and not accept any contact he may try to make with her out of respect to your marriage.

I would also ask her the hypothetical question as to how would she feel if she were married, with 1 child and another on the way, and she knew her husband was talking/laughing/confiding in another woman. I am sure she will empathize and hopefully do the right thing by leaving him alone and not accepting any more contact from him.

If he insists he will not cut off his contact, you need to consider why your husband would not take your feelings into consideration and primary over whatever new "friendship" just established with some random girl.

Good luck

Answer 6

It depends on what they are talking about and how long he has know this lady. If she is someone he works with and she need help with something that has to do with work, then the answer is no. If she is a long time friend and has a husband of her own, then the answer is no. If she is a person he met on line or in a chat room and she is single then the answer is, yes he is on the border line of cheating. Sometime it is best not to play with fire, you could get burn.

Answer 7

I have had this same situation happen to me. I would not consider it cheating if they were talking about the weather, work or something of that nature. If it is something sexual in nature, or if you hear a lot of laughing and carrying on, I would consider it cheating. Because emotions of that nature can lead to something else. Sometimes men and women can be just friends. But I would keep a close eye.

Answer 8

if you are truly feeling disrespected then I agree that you should first let him know the problem, try to find a counselor, then if neither works, he don't stop or it gets worse, then yes you should leave. When a man is married the only women he should be friends with is his wife and other women they both are friends with. women only stick to married guys to hear about the problems and to be there when it ends hoping to start a relationship. don't be the fool for to long get out while your heart is still in two.

Answer 9

Yeah I think he's cheating emotionally. if he already stated that he doesn't believe in guy/girl "friend" relationships then he's has to be searching else where. try to communicate with him and see whats going on with him and find out whats so special about her, most likely he's finding something in her that your lacking or just not doing...IE communication. so just talk to him as a wife not an investigator and see what he says AFTER listening tell him how you feel.

Answer 10

I know men, who are married and happily that have friends that are women, BUT, they are also friends with the wife, so maybe you should say, either stop, or get out. I agree with the person who said talking can develop other things....yes, if his heart is aiming for that. Confront him and tell him what you feel....and do not be weak be strong in your conversation. So he knows you are not backing down.