What should I do about someone who i've been talking to for about 1 month but we still haven't gotten 2gether?

Question

This guy and I really like each other, and he claims he thinks he's in love, but we've never officially gotten together. I'm not the one to talk to someone for more than 2 weeks if I see nothing I like in them, but he's really kept me interested. He has everything I would want in a bf but for some reason it feels like he's holding back. He claims he doesn't want to get his heart broken again but I honestly think that he might be talking to someone else. We have tried to date previously but I found out he was messin with someone else. I don't know whether he's being honest, or lying and I'm falling for it. We both want this to work but in my opinion, it's taking too long. And it's not like I haven't said any of this to him. He knows how I feel.

Ok, no we have not had sex. He don't even mess around like that. He knows I want something real, and he also knows that I want to remain a virgin until I find the right one, oruntil marriage. He says he cool witht that.

Answer 1

There is something a little disturbing about a portion of what you wrote, this part below:
"We have tried to date previously but I found out he was messing with someone else. I don't know whether he's being honest, or lying and I'm falling for it. We both want this to work"
If you tried to date previously but you found out he was messing with someone else, how did you find out? Did he confess to you, or did someone tell you. Basically what I'm getting at is this, people show us who they are and what they are all about early on. We choose to either ignore that or think it will get better because we are attracted to certain things about them. The truth is when someone really has an interest and wants to explore the possibilities of a relationship, they do just that. I understand a person being skeptical and the fear of getting hurt, but life is about taking chances. Wen a person shows hesitation in furthering the friendship, there is usually a reason, one that I think goes deeper than that.

Answer 2

Nooo, not at all, if you know what you've got is the best. And sometimes, if you don't get married then, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Look, ideally it would be nice to wait, but special circumstances here - he is moving away, the air force only accommodate wives, and his missions could be dangerous, so what's a man to do? He's just gotta ask you to be his wife, it seems a logical thing to ask. A man doesn't ask this unless he really means it, so if you love him, accept him. The worst that will happen is you get divorced a few years down the line - but that can happen to anyone getting married at any age, so don't let that put you off. Personally, I asked the waitress I'd met just the day before to marry me, as I had to catch a plane back to the UK the next day and I knew she was everything I'd been looking for all my life and I was damned if I was going to lose her now. She was 17 and I was 20 years older. Fortunately she thought I was a nice guy - mad, but nice - and I married her less than 6 months later. We've been incredibly happy for 15 years now, so it can work. Who's to say yours won't too?

Answer 3

well let me just say that it sounds like you Really like this guy. Even though he has given you problems in the past...people change. I did. Be a woman and tell him that you Will be his girlfriend(make it non-optional). He'll most likely find it cute and realize that you're the best Mothafukin thing that ever happened to him. Give him a try...If he says no- then he is a loser. If he says yes...you know how to handle it. But as a unbias random yahoo user...i hope it works out.

Answer 4

Well. it seems you have done everything, and all he's done is play around.
I would suggest you quit wondering about him and find someone who is interested in you.
It seems to me, he's keeping you on a string, in the off chance that he may or may not need you.
Just think of him as an acquaintance and move on to something a lot more real.

Answer 5

if you been together for well a month but not really together you should ask yourself where is he spending the rest of his time if you found out something before he probably is still seeing that person.Ask him to spend more time together if he makes up a excuse leave him because then you know there is someone else.

Answer 6

When you say "gotten 2gether" , you mean sex. Is it that important if you like the guy to have sex? Isn't more important to enjoy each other's company, and have fun? If he is trying to play both sides of the fence, and "your not playing that", then dump his a$$.

Answer 7

the same situation also happened to me..but finally i found that he already has a gf..he lie to me he told me that he hasn't..but it's too late i've fallin for him..i can't even hate a lier like him..but now i try to forget bout it..i think u better make sure that this do not happened to u..n asked him if he is serious..but don't ever be the first to ask him to get together with u..let him talk n ask u..than u'll be worthy..

Answer 8

first of all i must say its refreshing to hear a female say she respects herself, thats great. second the only way for you to know what is really going on in this guys ming is to have a talk with him and ask him to be honest with you about his feelings. you seem to be too good to be holding on to a man who could be stringing you along.good luck

Answer 9

I think he is using you. get away from him. I was in the same boat and i just told the jerk to get lost. Now I am looking for a nice guy and don't worry there are more guys out there.

Answer 10

Men & women are now on equal footing... gone are the days when men do the courting... go for it girl... but be ready to be rejected... its the risk we men have gone thru all these centuries