IF YOU FEEL THAT WAY YOU MIGHT NOT EVER....I GOT DIVORCED 6YRS AGO(caps , sorry) had 2 children in the mean time but always looked back.... always loved her....but now 6yrs later we are back together. falling in love with someone else helped, but if you really love her you may always love her.
I never got over my x-wife...but then again being back together is not as spectacular as i always imagined...wish you told how long you have been apart...maybe could have helped more.
if it's a fresh divorce give it some time and then see how you feel.....date others to get your mind off her ..if it's been a while maybe try to reconcile....
sorry to here it and GOOD LUCK !!!
it will work out in the end.
2006-06-06 13:33:31
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answered by The Hit Man 6
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You did not state if you have a new wife or girlfriend now. If you do, think of the reasons for your separation with her. If it was your fault, I would say that it would really be difficult for you not to love her anymore because of your guilt feeling. If she was at fault, and if you have another woman now whom you also love, think of your present woman's edge over your wife and try to love her more. Gradually divert all the love you have left for your wife to your love for your present woman. But if still you cannot do that, don't worry. There's nothing wrong for you to love her still because you were once together and perhaps you treasure some things that happened in your past. But you should keep it to yourself. Don't let the other woman know about it because it may hurt her.
If there is no other woman in your life, is there no more hope for a reconciliation between you and your ex-wife. If she is still available, why not court her again? If she isn't, you may as well let her know about your feelings for her. She might do something to your advantage that will make your reconciliation possible without hurting his man.
Love is sweeter the second time around. It might as well be a possible bliss for the two of you.
2006-06-06 13:43:41
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answered by Ruzzo 4
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You don't. Plain and simple. Always remember that you loved her with every inch of your skin and just because you are now divorced, does not mean that you turn off your heart. Things happen in our lives that cause us to loose loved ones whether by death or seperation. Continuing to lover her is not wrong. Perhaps it was better that you parted with love rather than hatred in your heart for her. If friendship is an option, love her as a friend. Be happy for her if she has moved on with her life and hopefully, you will do the same. The love will never end, but that does not mean that you should not be open for a new love as well. Good luck.
2006-06-06 13:32:44
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answered by oceanlady_slh67 2
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I am sooooo sick of people saying "time heals or just move on" your heart does not work that way. Getting over someone is not easy. If you need to morn it then do so. A divorce is like a death it is painful and sad. Also try to get yourself into a divorce recovery program. I know that Churches have them. Find someone to talk to that you can trust and that is going to listen and not give you the advice "just get over it" If it were only that simple...If you don't have a friend to talk to then try counseling. Try and do this before the depression sets in because once that happens its even harder to recover and to let the relationship go. Good Luck
2006-06-06 13:38:39
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answered by patty 2
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It was once relaxed. I was once married for 14 and I desired the divorce. But I do nonetheless have emotions for him, I simply recognize we can not be in combination anymore. We weren't joyful as a pair and we could combat over the whole thing. I wish him and I to be joyful. If that implies for him to be with anybody else, then so be it. Maybe he can uncover anybody to make him happier than I did. In time you'll recover from it. You will uncover anybody who makes you simply as joyful if now not extra : )
2016-08-20 09:36:51
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answered by ? 4
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It was once relaxed. I used to be married for 14 and i desired the divorce. But I do nonetheless have emotions for him, I simply recognize we cannot be together anymore. We weren't blissful as a pair and we'd fight over the whole lot. I want him and i to be pleased. If that implies for him to be with anybody else, then so be it. Probably he can in finding any one to make him happier than I did. In time you'll recover from it. You'll in finding anybody who makes you just as glad if not extra : )
2016-08-08 21:47:19
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answered by buckleyjr 4
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It became gentle. i became married for 14 and that i wanted the divorce. yet I do nevertheless have emotions for him, I in basic terms comprehend we can't be mutually anymore. We were no longer satisfied as a pair and shall we strive against over each and every thing. i want him and that i to sense free. If which ability for him to be with somebody else, then so be it. possibly he can locate someone to make him happier than I did. In time you receives over it. you'll locate someone who makes you in straightforward words as satisfied if no more suitable : )
2016-12-06 10:54:12
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answered by Anonymous
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You are always going to love her, especially if you had kids. You just have to find a place for that love to be stored within you along with all the good memories the two of you have. And just try to move forward. believe me, this to shall pass. It gets just a little bit easier everyday to be without him, or in your case her. need a friend? let me know.
2006-06-06 13:49:14
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answered by Anonymous
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you cant stop love but you can deal with the loss by trying to cope with it. move on if your ready and if not surrround yourself with hobbies and friends . dont think about her anymore or if possible try to reconcile with her. i know it hurts and only time can heal that pain . true love never dies but the pain of the loss does go away with time and i do realize she isnt dead i mean loss otherwise. dont try to stop love or you might hurt the ability to love again with someone new .
2006-06-06 13:33:18
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answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5
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As time go by you will.Cause i have been Thur the same thing i still have feeling at time about the past love thing that we had.But it a lot better than it use to be.So it will take time to get over her.
2006-06-06 13:31:02
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answered by Happy 5
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