im 16 years old, im very mature for my age, im not like most girls. but im engaged my fiance hes 20 turning 21 soon, some people think im too young and i dont know what love is or im just going threw a phaze. but i kno im in love and i kno what i want in life. why do people critizise and judge me about being engaged at 16?
2006-06-06 13:10:12 · 16 answers · asked by sexc_baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i was married at 15 and we just celebrated our 15th on june the 3rd....people will make comments but that is they are THERE comments dont let them get you down...if you know in your heart it is right...than GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!! i dont ever regret marrying the love of my life......
2006-06-06 13:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by SeptAngel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well 16 is young most people are still trying to find themselves at this age. how long have you been with your fiance and what do your parents think. My only suggestion is to stay engaged for at least a year and then if you both still feel the same way then go for it, just remeber divorces are very expensive but I believe you can be in love at your age and be happy.People usually judge on there own experiences..I was in love at 17 with the guy for 7 years and was suppose to be married and he left me a month before it happened so just be sure . Good Luck
2006-06-06 13:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Aims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 so I think we can relate a little with this one.....so hear me out ok? 16 is a little young to be engaged. When you go to college.....if you plan on going that is......I promise that you will have the hardest time remembering that you are due to be married. College is the real world.....New people, different personalities, temptations. It will be hard. You gonna find yourself holding back on living your life because.......you're engaged. Then you later on you will get angry because you feel that you missed out. You too young to be tied down. At the age you are you need to be dating..............not have an actually boyfriend per say..............dating. Going to the movies, you know, really getting to see what you want in a SOULMATE!!!! I'm not criticising you or anything like that but...........you still got some time to live................you feel me?
2006-06-06 13:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by JusChillin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because who you are at 16 is completely different from who you are at 20. You're life is going to change SO much in the next few years, and committing to somebody can make it difficult to maintain a successful relationship.
I'm not telling you you don't love him, and I won't tell you that you don't know what love is. I believe you do. I was in the same situation.
I can tell you, however that me and my ex-fiance grew apart as we grew into different people. Our expectations changed, and we simply became incompatible.
It's one thing to stay together, or even live together, until you're the "age of majority" but getting married so young will make things SO much harder if it turns out you two were not meant to be.
In the long run, you can't live for anyone else, you have to live your own life and learn from your own experiences.
I wish you all the best.
2006-06-06 13:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Chryss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well look your not alone on many levels...im 17 and im engaged. i got engaged almost three months ago when i was 16 and my fiancee is five months younger than me but hes 16 almost 17. people tell me im moving to fast and i dont know what im doing because well have been together for a year and a half when we get married on july 18 of next year. look, the reason people critisize you for being engaged at 16 is because they are old fashion and a lot of people dont believe in teen love that happens in high school and some people just dont understand. all that matters is that your happy and that your fiancee loves you and is truthful to you. i wish you good luck. blessed be
2006-06-06 13:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by Silver Rose Tiger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean, but I do think you should wait a little longer. Why? Because you probably won't be the same person in the next five years. I know because I was first engaged at 17 myself, very mature for my age just as yourself. Thought i had it all together all planned out. None of worked out. I'm 21 now and I'm currently engaged again, but now I know for sure who I am and that I'm ready for marriage. I don't know your situation, and I'm trying to compare our situations. But my recommendations are that you wait a little longer you'll feel differently in the next five years, I guarantee it.
Be Blessed!
2006-06-06 13:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by professional_clerical85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has less to do with "knowing what love is" or knowing what you want in life, and more to do with experience. I have no doubts you are in love with this man, but at 16 let's face it - you haven't really seen what is out there in the world. I hope for the best for you and hope that it works out, but in reality, most people who get married young (under 24, for example) find themselves wondering what "could have been" as they get older. All I will do is caution you that this may happen, and hope you have thought this through beyond the blinding / illusion stage of being in love and thought about what it will be like when you are 45 and sending your kids off to college and then spending the rest of your life with him. Best wishes to you both.
2006-06-06 13:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixbrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u dont know what love is.. ur a child still. u need to learn to grow and. becasue being engaged at 16 is too young. like i said ur still a child. i was ur age once.. and it want long ago either give or take couple of yrs. and hes 20 21.. more than likely he just wants sex. and has either a gf or a wife or is cheating on you.. and on top of it all. he can so go to jail for a very long *** time. hes way to old for you.. yes i will addmittthat i went for older guys when i was ur age.. but look at the facts.hes a sicko for even thinking about being with you.. im not sayingthat to be mean.. i mean that in age wise.. not looks. but umm.. u need to toss this dude hes a pervert and gross he needs to be put in jail!
but thgats just wat i thnk.. i hope ive help a little be true to ur self. im telling u everyone knows what they are saying when they say ur too young.. girl we know these things we were not born yesterday... or guys just didnt appear out of thin air all of a sudden.. us girls .. nkow guys from the inside out,...
2006-06-06 13:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by score_07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be honest and say, yes, it's a bit young - but if you are planning on having a LONG engagement, then I don't see anything wrong with it.
I'm 23 and my husband is 21. We were engaged when I was 19 and he was 17, so don't feel bad. ;)
2006-06-06 13:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by ravishingly_low 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its jealousy bcuz im 16 2 & my fiance is 19 and people think that its bad 1st of all age is nutin but a number. think nof it lik dis bac in da days ppl didnt care how old dey were wen dey got married my parents r 15 years apart wats luv is luv u can never go rong wit it. dont listen to wa ppl say & live happily everr after wit him good luck wit ur marriage. I MEAN IT! =]
2006-06-06 13:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you are 16. You are legally not able to make your own decisions for a reason. Here is a good example of why.
2006-06-06 13:14:15 · answer #11 · answered by ecleeze 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋