i was raped two weeks ago and i think im pregnat.i dont know what to do. i dont want to have a baby at 13. i dont belive in abortion what should i do please help me :-?
2006-06-06 13:04:14 · 67 answers · asked by babykhi16 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it was my best friend who raped me he was a virgin and wanted to lose his virginaty so bad, he took mine. =(
2006-06-06 13:36:35 · update #1
and my mom knows what happend and my doctor says it's to early to tell if im pregnat or not
2006-06-06 13:37:53 · update #2
see a doctor and have a test done, and there is always adoption
2006-06-06 13:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters rape is a very big issue and there should be charges pressed on the boy. I am 41 and have been raped also. I know the mental stress and how it can drive you insane. My own daughter had two children between the ages 14 and 18. I know that you are scared and feel alone but you are not. Ask your doctor to recommend a good counselor and go talk to him/her. If you are pregnant you must think about several things, you didn't ask to have sex so the decision of abortion is totally up to you. Remember that you are young and a lot can happen during and after pregnancy. If you are, then are you willing to give up your baby for the baby's benefit or do you have a supportive family that will help you to take care of it. Last and definitely not least, it is your decision nobody can make it for you. If you are not then I am happy for you and suggest that you get help for your feelings. I would like to offer my help in some little way. Maybe you could join a group that would help you but I will suggest the following books they helped me a lot. ( The Courage to Heal and The Courage to Heal Workbook will both help you put things into perspective. )
2006-06-14 10:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and see what the pregnancy test shows. If the test is positive, I would see a counselor and talk to your mom. They can help you make the decision that is right for you. If you don't believe in abortion and don't want to keep the baby, then I would say adoption is a good course of action. It's not the baby's fault what happened to you and if you choose to keep it do the best you can. No one would blame you for whatever choice you make, rape is a terrible thing and something that can affect you the rest of your life. Definitely get some counseling and I hope everything works out for you hon.
2006-06-17 14:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your friend did was wrong. And I am with you that an abortion is not the right thing to do. Maybe you should consider adoption because that should be the best thing to do. But in most situations when a girl carries a baby 9 months her and the baby began to bond. So it's your decision on what you want to do about the situation.
2006-06-17 15:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing are you O.K? I am so sorry for what happened to you. You may want to seek help from a rape counselor so that you can come to terms with what has happened to you.Unfortunately,I feel that only you can decide if you want to bring the child of a rapist into the world even though the child is innocent just like you are it's all right to not want to have it or give it up for adoption.But no matter what you decide you and only you have to live with the decision and deal with the realities of being raped and becoming pregnant by your attacker and possibly carrying the baby and raising it or giving it up and then having the child search for you when he/she gets older it's a lot for one person to deal with let alone a 13 yr. old. GOD BLESS YOU.
2006-06-06 13:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is a true scenerio. my friend was rapped by some guy in a alley. she got pregnant and didnt believe in abortions nor adoptions. so she had the baby. the baby is mentally challenged. so not only do she havet to wake up seein the same face that rapped her now she has to deal with takin care of a mentally challenged kid 4 the rest of her life. the baby is 7yrs old and he cant even feed himself. she cries herself to sleep everynite. i think u should have it since u dont believe in abotions then give it up for adoption. if u jus cant deal wit da pain. it'll b hard hard walkin around school or anywhere pregnant so young. people can be so cruel. u gotta stay strong. The ultimate anwer is within the Lord Jesus Christ. Ask him and he'll tell u!
2006-06-20 09:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl you started out on the right path. You told your mom and went to the doctor. You have the best people on your side. Right now you need to take care of yourself physically and mentally. You can only wait it out for atleast another week until your far enough along to tell. that is if your pregnant. I have to say are too young, I had my daughter when i was 17, got pregnant when i was 16. I kept my daughter and raised her by myself, and it was the hardest thing to do but the most rewarding. But you are still a child and should be able to enjoy your childhood. I wish you the best of luck. Your in my prayers girl.
2006-06-16 04:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by misses e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he raped you i wouldn't call him your best friend. You can give your baby up for adoption, there are plenty of couples out there that want a baby but can't have them. That's all you can do since you don't believe in abortion. And i would press charges against him.
2006-06-20 10:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to the police? You need to report him. About the baby, try not too worry too much until you know for sure that you are pregnant. Since it sounds like you know the boy, it is probably a good idea to tell him about the pregnancy (after you find out for sure that you are). You do have options. If you choose to have the baby, there is the option of adoption.
2006-06-16 20:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl I am so sorry to hear that and all I have to say on that note I hope your mother is handling that. And the only advice I can give you that you are to young to give up your life for something you well know that you are not ready for. I am not trying to say that you can't but you deserve alot more that that God will find a way to forgive you for that one. It's okay not to believe in abortions but it is most important that you believe in your self and what you have to offer the world. You don't want to have to one day explain to a child thatt there father is rapist and tha they were not conceived out of love no child deserves that.
2006-06-16 18:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by mocca4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to break it to you but your doctor is right. Most people don't even know that they are pregnant til the second month. It's also highly unlikely to get pregnant your first time. If it bothers you so much though, you could wait a couple weeks then go take a test or see your doctor again.
2006-06-19 23:03:19 · answer #11 · answered by blissful-imagination 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋