I believe that people make mistakes so everyone has to learn how to forgive and forget. Do you agree or not?
I also feel that people make mistakes but if you love them you should either accept that they will make the specific action again and again or leave them.
Do you agree?
2006-06-06 13:01:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is very important to learn to forgive people. We SHOULD learn to forgive but I'm not so sure if we should forget. If we forget then we are in a sense setting ourselves up to fall for the same mistake again and again. If you love someone you should definatly forgive them for what they have done but don't forget it, just store the information & chalk it up as a life lesson learned. You may go through the same thing with this person time & time again but you are also learning something new from each insident. Not forgetting is not a bad thing...think of when you were a child...you got too close to the hot stove & got burned......your mind stored this experience for future, so the next time you got too close you had that memory of what happened & you are a little more reluctant to get too close again....same proves for getting hurt...EVERYONE makes mistakes, and those who love you the most will still be there for you no matter how many times it may be.....afterall it probably took you a few times of getting too close to that hot stove before you learned, right? At the same time you do not have to accept a persons behavior if the same crime has been committed over too many times. You can still forgive a person for their actions & love them for who they are, but distancing yourself in a certain way will help you maintain bounderies & respect. Lastly, we must understand that the ones that we love the most tend to be the ones that hurt us the most & that may be because our expectations of that person are set higher than that of a stranger of someone you do not know well....think.....it bothers you if a friend that you just met has wronged you, but it bothers you more if it was a friend that you've known for awhile, has wronged you right? Why? Because you expected more out of the person whom you've known longer.
2006-06-07 10:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by La Prieta 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hm..interesting question. I would say people can forgive but not really forget. If someone wronged you, it is ok to say it is okay..but I don't think you ever really forget.
People do mistakes, but not all mistakes are created equally.
Some are bigger than others..and it is up to everyone of us to decide if it is too big to forgive or not. I think it is fine either way.
If you love a person, it is tough..and I'm sure you will be more willing to forgive. I do agree that you either accept the way the person is or leave him/her. If someone wants to change, it has to come from him/herself...not an external force.
2006-06-06 13:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mav17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with both questions. How can you expect others to forgive you when you make a mistake(and we all do) if you cant do the same for them..right?
2006-06-06 13:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive little things. But major things like crimes such as murder i would never forgive. And i dont think not forgiving is bad at all. If someone killed a loved one of mine i would never forgive them. I would try and let the hate go but i wouldnt ever forgive them no matter what they say or do in the future.
2006-06-06 17:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree because everyone makes mistakes...and so do all ur friends....so if u never forgive ur friends...what friends r u going to have after that???u have to forgive.and forget.<333 ya lotz...!<3:)!
i agree w/ the first and second questions.
2006-06-06 13:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the naive forgive and forget, the stupid neither forgive nor forget and the wise forgive but do not forget....
i find it hard to forgive at times...
2006-06-06 13:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Important, your life will be alot better if you do Forgive
2006-06-06 13:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree. you forgive someone for your own peace but that doesn't mean that you forget what was done too.
2006-06-06 14:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by vanderbilt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive sometimes can be easier then to forget, i believe in second chances, but sometimes, people arent as understanding as we hope for.....
2006-06-06 14:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋