i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and i can't see myself with anyone else ever. we have a 10 month old daughter. although we argue once in a while, we are happy with our lives together. do u think we are ready to get married or should we wait a few years?
2006-06-06 12:55:17 · 27 answers · asked by britni7887 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have already got a family started so worrying about getting married seems a little silly. Regardless you and your boyfriend will always have a child together so you will always be in each other's lives. Waiting a few years won't help make you and smarter or stronger. Get married. Learn to be adults together and raise your child as a family. Struggle and remember why you got together in the first place. Marriage is hard but if you are both committed to making it work, age is just a number.
2006-06-06 13:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by lunalutz22 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask yourself if you're too young to get married, then the answer is "Yes!" You and your boyfriend are happy together, you have a child together, what will getting married now give you that you don't already have?
Wait a few years and see how everything goes. There's no sense rushing into it because it's harder to undo a marriage than it is to get married in the first place.
If you want to be married because you think it will be better for your daughter, you also need to think about what a divorce will do to her a few years down the road. Divorce is the WORST thing you can ever do to your child! Get engaged, and stay engaged for a long time - but don't get married right now since you don't have to.
Most people your age get married in order to have sex - obviously you've already done that, so what's the point of rushing into it?
2006-06-06 13:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by trust me, I know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not, you already have created a child and have been together. If you love the other just do it. I was married when I was nineteen and have a daughter I'm 21 now. We will be married the 20th this month so were doing good. You just have to remember that there are hard and good times to go through together, I mean right now I live with my mother in law and were not exceptionally happy but we have a place to live it will become better real soon, so stick in there and hope that it works out for you good luck sweetie.
2006-06-06 13:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by catlins_playhouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a circumstance where there isn't a child I would say no, enjoy bring young, and single. But that enjoy being young went out the window when you all had a child. However if it is meant to be it will be. And marriage is something you want to go in knowing and ready for it can change things. The fact that you are asking us and the way you are says that you aren't sure that it is the best decision, which means it's probably not. It won't hurt to wait a few more years, if he is the one you are meant to be with it will happen that way, but don't rush, take in the whole being parents thing first.
2006-06-06 13:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by LoTs2ShArE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you were old enough to have a child then you are old enough to get married. My sister got married at 18 (no kids or wasn't preg) That was 12 years ago and is still VERY happily married and now has four kids. My cousin got married at 17 because she was preg. That was 23 years ago is and still VERY happily married. I think it depends on the maturity and commitment of the two people. I think if you have been together for 3 years and are still together and happy, then go for it!
2006-06-06 13:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Wilma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when i was eighteen and it was the biggest mistake of my life I am 22 and am getting a divorce i would definately wait a few years alot changes between the ages of 18 and 22
2006-06-06 12:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't do it I got married at 20 and I am going on 22 and getting divorced with 2 kids
2006-06-06 13:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have a baby together, you should be married. Yes 18 is too young to be married, it is also way too young to be a parent. A little too late for that lecture. Give your baby a legitimate family.
2006-06-06 13:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didnt give me enough info on what u feel is right but if u think u and him are ready it nevers to late 4 u to get married i think ur not to young but i cant tell u what to do thats up 2 you just make sure that your both ready for it if u got a baby your probally ready
2006-06-06 13:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by lilb491 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you and his maturity level. Do you know what love really is? That is the question you should ask yourselves. You do have a child and really normal married people argue here and there. There really is not enough info to answer this question. But, good luck to you and your family.
2006-06-06 13:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by themisslita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋