Girl I'm seeing lives with her babys dad. Should I leave or should I Stay?

Question

She says she don't love him,they dont sleep together or communicate at all. This is true because she talks about this problem with co- worker friends. Yes we work together.She would even talk to me about this. Why lie to friends?Now its unbelievable that we hooked up. Theres just this crazy connection between us. She has left him before but her family talks down to her for splitting the family. She is unhappy but stays for her kid. But she does want out. It bothers me that she is scared and confused to do it and can't say when she will leave. The guy is most likely messing around with someone else she believes. I know it's hard for her but I dont want to fall more than I have and her still be in that situation. I truely believe I would regret it more if I just let her go for good. She is good to me. Never Argue, Always laughing and having good times. Its very rear that I meet a girl like this. She asks me to be patient and I want to try but I keep bringing the issue up. What do I do

Answer 1

Yeah there's a crazy connection between you two.......Look in the mirror,,,,,,suprise !!!! It's you!!!!!!!. Is this whole question for real ? or did you watch so soap opera, to come up with the plot?

If she is staying in the same house she is having sex with him ...and any other statment about it is a lie.....Just believe me I know.........Don't fall for it....She'll get you to date her to make her child's daddy jealous....and you the sucker ... Tell her if she wants a relationship...move out of his place......

Answer 2

First off, let me laugh my butt off or like you mentioned ".. Its very rear that ....", I dont know if the typo was intentional or not, but you were crack on ( Pun Intended ).
Seriously, what are you thinking, man?? Where is your self respect??
You are talking as if she is last person on earth. There are a lot more people who are caring and will make you laugh. You dont need a girl who is weak kneed !!
You, damn right, the connection is crazy.
You are the odd one out, buddy, sorry to say that, but I think she will walk all over you, and by the time, she is done with you, you wold have spent the pink of your life waiting for someone who is and never was, yours.
Make up your mind and move ahead.
Change your job or something, meet new people, Trust me, you will eat your words, when you meet women who are as compassionate and fun and even better.
Cheers!!

Answer 3

This is a hard one. Especially when you're emotions are involved with this woman. You sound like a great guy, not too many ppl would jump into a relationship with someone who has kids. I should know because i just came from a relationship with a guy who had two kids.

Now it was driving me crazy that his ex would follow us around everywhere we go, always trying to spoil the relationship. I learnt it the hard way. I realised that no matter what...the ex will always use the kid as and excuse. Mine had two and i met and stayed with the family. We were quite official, but internally speaking, he had obligations as a parent, which is good. But that cut out time and energy for me, and his ex was on our case 24/7.

They say they dont have anyomore feelings for eachother...bla bla, and it may well be tru that one has moved on. Who wants to be with someone who's ex constantly follows them around??? Who will always be in the picture even if you do live together. Its not a nice thing. You deserve better. You really dont need the burdend and hassle of her problems.

The fact that she is still with her ex, her fathers baby, means you are not her priority, and when you are love somenone you need to be their number one in thier life. You will find that somebady, just dont dwell on this subject anyomre. It took me awhile to except the truth,coz i loved him so much, but it became too stressful.

FInd someone who will love you and will put you first. Who wont make you second best. Find someone with no kids....not that there is anytihng wrong with that, but it makes it special when you share a life with a person who's devoted to you,appriciates you and who doesent have to put you on hold and tend to others. Find the one who will hav fun with you, prove that she loves you and will give you your first baby, and share a life with you. Isnt that what you want???
Save yourself the heartache and leave her altogether. Do it now before it gets too hard Trust me on this one. I learned the hard way.

Answer 4

Run, run far away. Why bother getting caught up in a crazy mess? You have your life to live. She's holding on to her past, and is staying there for a reason. If there really was this "crazy connection" she could leave. Get out, and enjoy your life, don't let hers hold you down. It's not worth it.

Answer 5

I think you should continue to see her. It is hard to take care of a baby and either not work or not make enough. It is very hard to pay rent bills and support a child and I would know I only work part time and I have 2 kids, so I say stay with her

Answer 6

If she won't leave her current situation you should walk away. Even if she does not sleep with the guy she is still very emotionally invested in the situation as long as they live together. You cannot have an honest growing relationship with a person who is still in another relationship. Leave for your own sanity.

Answer 7

I'd say she's having her cake and eating it too. Unless you are willing to financially support her and the kids, you don't have much of a chance to be with her. And, if you do end up together your a rebound with a ready-made family. Stay out of it, you don't really know her and that "connection" is called sexual attraction. It will pass.

Answer 8

Sounds very confusing. Let your heart guide you. But the fact that you even ask the question tells me you have doubts
Listen to your heart
My son was in the same situation last year- very hurtful

Answer 9

She would eventually knows that the relationship is not a good one, if she smart which I'm sure she is, the time will come and she will come to realize she is in a unhappy relationship.

Answer 10

make a way for her to get out of the situation. find a place where she and the baby can go w/o you moving in and she can afford. if she is serious then she will probably consider your offer if she is not then she is not ready to leave her situation then you should move on...