Engagement?

Question

My boyfriend proposed to me on the weekend and I have said "yes". Anyway, he had/has no ring because he spent the last of his savings paying off his house to sell (it's on the market now)so we can buy a bigger home together. He said he feels bad about the 'ring thing' and reckons he didn't think of it... Not that I care all that much as this is a second marriage. Anyway, I told the people I work with that I am engaged and all they can say is "where's the ring?" . . . Apart from that they could barely bat an eye. I feel really hurt. His family and friends are lovely and are really excited - but my mother and family don't care less except for a couple of my friends. . . This is really depressing me (I cried about it last night) because it's meant to be an exciting and wonderful time and people's non-plus and almost negative attitudes towards me are putting a wet blanket over the whole thing. I guess I just want a bit of friendly feedback from someone..... :)

Answer 1

You do not need a ring to signify your love for one another. You can eventually get one. Hey! Now you two can go out together and pick the ones you really want! That way if he cannot give you some guady huge thing!!!!! Have an engagement party or take your parents and friends out to celebrate!!! Have a barbeque to announce it! You two love eachother! thats all that counts!

Answer 2

You know...to all the people that give you a hard time about the ring thing...you should tell them that the amout of love you guys have can not be insulted by a ring....a rock will not be big enough to measure your love ...the ring he's giving you is a house...besides how many of the girls that had a big stone are still happily married?! when my husband porposed to me we were in London he brought me a 20 pounds ring ( no diamont just a small white looking stone on silver)... to this day when we're quite well off i do not want to replace that ring ...he brought me other rings but i refuze a diamond ( 'engagement ring')....that 20 pound ring represented what we had and it was a small token. Your token in this case will be the new house he'll buy so that you can have a nice home. That's bigger and better than a ring.
Don
t gie him a hard time chances are he rally is feeling bad about this.
Congratulations! I wish you guys many happy and healthy years together.

Answer 3

The ring is a material non important part, what matters is the commitment that the two of you are going to have with each other. Listen carefully on what family and friends have to say about your fiancee, because even if the comment is good or bad,it would give you more information for you to continue to care more about your partner or give you input in areas to be aware in a moment of crisis. If the ring subject continues to arise with friends and relatives,an idea could be to get a "promise ring" until the real ring is given to you. Congratulation on your engagement.

Answer 4

You stated something important. He is getting a bigger home for you to start your lives together in. This my dear is more important than a ring he is securing a future. Your friends and family should be thrilled that you have such a responsible fiance. Hold on to this one love and in five years time when you are settled I am sure he will buy you the gorgeous ring you deserve.

Congratulations and may God Bless this union.

Answer 5

Here's the simple thing. You must realize that people in this world are only concerned about material things and what they can do for them or how they make them feel. Look if you and you fiance agree to this time without a ring, who cares what everyone else thinks or says. Make sure everyone knows that its a mutual agreement cause of the bigger picture. Getting a ring is so Worldly stereotypical view anyways. Who cares what everyone else thinks or believes as long as you two are HAPPY about the decision, right......RIGHT.
Good luck and God Bless you and your fiance through this trial,

Answer 6

When you get marriage most peoples do ask about the ring. Why? I have no idea, It really none of their business I would care less, as long as I happy! Are you happy? Don't let these people spoil your happy occasion Be happy! Don't worry! When you get married you going to get the most beautiful ring their is, cheer up and don't let this little thing get to you, Congratulation I wish you the best!

Answer 7

An engagement can be one of the best times in your life and also the worst dont worry people will come around and a ring should not matter it is not what shows the love. He does. Congrats.

Answer 8

Congrats!!! You should be very excited for your future. It isn't the ring that matters. And when someone asks I would tell them, "I don't need a ring to prove that he loves me. Our love together can't be expressed with some silly token of tradition" It's just enough to get everyone to back off but still to see that your love and impending nuptials are the important things. Best wishes to you and your fiance.

Answer 9

well the only people who should be excited about this is you and your partner. dont worry bout what other people think u r not marrying them. as for a ring tell him to get you something that is not so expensive even a ring out of the bubble gum machine its something between you and him until he can get you something better. so dry your eyes and concentrate on you and him...

Answer 10

Congratulations girlie! You seem to have gotten a caring man, who's responsible. Don't let them bring you down. Think of it this way... you will get a ring and maybe they just can't comprehend because they don't see a physical symbol of the engagement.
Again, congrats!