why can't I stop thinking about my ex narcissistic partner who ended relationship on Jan ist and has new girl

Question

I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM WITH HER.He threw me away with no remorse.I TRULY LOVED HIM AND HE SAID HE LOVED ME, YET HE QUICKLY AND EFFICIENTLY MADE ME LEAVE.He turned cold and nasty towards me . I could not believe he was the same person anymore-he actually scared me! I saw anger come out of him that I had only seen in small glimpses during our relationship.How could someone change that much? He would not discuss our relationship like a "normal" couple would. I told him if he thought it was over that we should try and work things out and get some help.he said"everything you have said all makes sense,but we are still breaking up.This was what he was like, all black and white no inbetween about anything. It was horribly frustrating for me. And he was extremely immature about things. Also, very self centered and materialistic.He would also flirt with women in front of me and very often at his work where he met lots of single women. He ia now seeing his second women .I'm stillgreiving

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We could start a club. It's because you don't have closure and you still aren't over him. No one said getting over someone was easy. It sucks big time. But you HAVE TO MOVE ON. You are a strong person and you deserve someone better, you are worthy of someone better. Let his flirting ways and put downs be HER problem now. There IS a man out there that loves you, you just have to find each other, and it won't happen if you sit at home and grieve over HIM. Go find your man!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

just realize that you are in love with someone WHO NEVER EXISTED. you are in love with a dream of who he could be, if he weren't who he is. that's just a fantasy person. i hope this helps you, it helps me.