We're good friends, and no affairs on either side. Just no passion on her side.
HELP!!!
2006-06-06 11:41:45 · 8 answers · asked by NYman 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married about as long as you have. My idea of romance used to be roses, candle light and wine. Many years later, romance has evolved into my husband handling a kid conflict or emptying the dishwasher for me. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way. MANY wives feel taken for granted for the things they do each day. Hopefully your wife isn't one of them! Good luck!
2006-06-06 12:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by clueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First remember it does not have to happen in the bedroom. Perhaps you have forgotten how great it was to cop a feel now and then or snuggle while she was cooking. Showing her More attention and putting some new life in the old relationship will really pick things up. She was used to stuff that does not happen anymore because you have become too used to the status Que.
Take her away for a weekend or on Saturday night go to a good show, dance and have a room ready at some motel where the two of you can be young again. If you are man enough to get her finished and not just yourself things will really pick up.
2006-06-06 11:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little romance outside of the bedroom. It's not all about the "ACT" . Romance her like you use to. She's not as young as she use to be 22years ago. As a woman gets older she needs more stimulation...and the mind is the place to start.
Tell her how beautiful she is. Cook dinner for her one night. Give her a message out of the blue. Put her in the bathtub and wash her body. Build up to the act instead of just hoping in the bed and be ready without her being stimulated.
Remember this: Women are stimulated emotionally, Men are stiumulated visually. Now that you have the foundation...it's time to start building. I hope I answered your question. Now, go and romance your lady and let me know how it goes. :)
2006-06-06 11:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by taushadoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she looks nice, but don't be sexual about it.
Hold her hand, but don't push for more.
Kiss her before you leave, and when you return.
Then leave her a little love note.
Then start being more flirtatious, but keep up the nice stuff too.
And when you get her into action, make sure she gets all the action she needs. I know, you're not 20 anymore. But it's not very motivating when she knows it's all going to be over before she really get started and then she's left with a mess and a sleeping, fully satisfied hubby. Go with lots of four play, it helps to make her want to play again later.
2006-06-06 11:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with her! Find out what she likes, what she wants to do, what her dreams are, etc. Women enjoy talking to their husbands and she will appreciate the fact that you make the time to spend time with her.
Find out the things she would enjoy doing - has she always wanted to go somewhere specific or take a cruise? Take her somewhere romantic. Start doing things together and getting to know eachother all over again. Women are emotional, so as you start reconnecting with her you will probably notice her having more of a desire for sex. Take little weekend trips together, do something spontaneous or out of the ordinary.
Spice things up - give her a massage, light candles, cook her dinner, etc. Maybe get couples massages for the two of you.
Just remember that her jumping your bones might not happen over night - it's probably going to take some time. Be patient and just get to know her all over again - think of it as "dating" or "woo'ing" your wife - have fun with it!
2006-06-06 11:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a sex store and pick out all sorts of stuff to explore. You never know, that could be just enough to get the spark back in her. Or try romancing her a little more, us women love romance. Also try to make the whole sex act about pleasing her and worry less about yourself.Trust me, we love it when you men focus all the attention on us, it shows us that you are not selfish and you actually care about our needs and not just about getting yourself off. I am lucky that I have a man that puts my sexual needs before his own. I hope I helped!
2006-06-06 12:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by ProudSexySouthernGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A romantic getaway. Cuddling on the couch. Little things like that can be rewarding in the bedroom.
2006-06-06 12:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
short sweet and to the point whatever you did to get her there in the beginning. plus add some rose petals candles and soft music...
2006-06-06 11:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋