Can you unthink about them? Can you unsay all the things, undo all the things that used to mean so much? I just wish I could unremember. But I find it's impossible to do.
2006-06-06 11:20:36 · 25 answers · asked by itty 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it's just a song, but to tell you the truth my husband and I have hit major boulders. I may pass myself off as a major alcaholic, but I am sooooo depressed. He's extremely selfish, he's admitted it, but that doesn't give me back my 10 years I've invested into this relationship.
2006-06-06 11:41:36 · update #1
yes, you definately can... I have been married 12 years. Recently I was very sick and I realized, while evaluating my life, that somewhere along the line I stopped loving my husband.
2006-06-06 12:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry about the LSD reference previously! Seriously
It's just a bad situation you're in. I just read the bit that says you're still married... what with the emoticons, I get this weird sense of everyone being 15 years old. 10 years marriage? And alcohol difficulties? And an unresponsive, selfish husband? I admit, I cannot comprehend the scale of problem... but it's still something that you're moving away from. Look for ways to get a level mind... some kind of a holiday. Put things in perspective, and get a fresh start.
Best of luck to you... be brave, and I still think it'll work out okay. Not all of it was wasted time.
2006-06-06 19:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by Buzzard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Love is an action - a verb, but also not something you can rewind or take back.
Hate is not exactly the opposite of love either. In order to hate, you actually have ot care about something, although the person in question might not actually be that which is cared for.
I was told that the actual oppostive of love is not caring (aka "indifference").
So the closest you can come to "unloving" someone is to decide that your whole experience with them was inconsequential and irrelevant and they don't really matter in any way - past, present, or future.
This, however, is probably also impossible because, at the very least, people will probably be pissed off because someone wasted their time...
Anyhow, just stop caring about them... Not my actual recommendation, but the answer to your question.
2006-06-06 18:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cheshire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish it was so... I wouldn't be so hollow... and despite the fact I don't follow horoscopes I always look at Ares (her sign) just to see if she might, despite everything, fall in love with me.
Here is a (pretty crap) poem I wrote today:
This is not what I want to say
The words I need won't come
I can't ask you to stay
And abandon your place in the sun
You know that I'm falling
And falling fast it's true
It's not the first time I've fallen
From grace, from favour, for you
Now I am reclaiming
My part in this thrice blighted day
It's myself I'm blaming
Because I can't ask you to stay
- EKL 2006
You can't unlove, you can hate but that is just a different passion, To feel nothing is not human and is not a choice we can take (oh how I wish it was). We must endure "the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune" between the times in which we find the cracks in which to shelter and truely live.
Have a fantastic life and be happy (at least one of us should be happy)!
2006-06-06 18:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by monkeymanelvis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think u can ever stop lovin someone but u may feel that u dont have the same feeling for that person..i you dont want to feel the way u do then leave that person along and it will get better as time go's by.. hope things works out for u...
2006-06-06 18:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by shorty21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya you can, on the out side but not in the back of your heart though. what i mean is when you think about this person, and things you might have done to gether.... just think about the reason you want to unlove him in the first place. it must have been pretty big for you to want to stop loving him. but still in the VERY VERY back walls, closets and closed doors of your heart you'll still know you love him, but my advice will help you make it threw un till you can TRULY, get over him. good luck keep your will steady.
2006-06-06 18:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great question! I'm actually trying to unlove the man who's divorcing me, but it's so hard to do. It's such a banality, but I think time is the only healer.
2006-06-06 18:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put 28yrs into my marriage which fell apart last year. You just have to keep telling yourself its for the best. It's not easy but just face it one day at a time. Good luck.
2006-06-07 05:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you cant only time can erase memories that done want to be there but satill will always be in the back of your mind at moments in your life when you will reflect on those times,as time goes by it will get better but nothing will erase all of that anytime soon sorry
2006-06-06 18:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is not that hard, what you have to do is get your mind off of everything like if you guys used to eat at a certain place don't eat their anymore. What you also need is friends and family to talk to so that you can keep your mind occupied if you want to talk, please let me know!
2006-06-06 18:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋