I am the bride's maid to a wedding and the bride is really starting to irritate me. He fiance is twice her age and thye are complete opposites physically and mentally. She has known him for four months. That is fine and I don't care, but she tells people that they are so much happier then me and mine what reasons I don't understand. She get jealous if I talk to other friends and the other day spilled a beer all over someones face when she went to take a drink. She loves to make an *** out of me and she flirts with men and tried to get me involved which I want no part of as I am totally content. She lifted my skirt when I was shooting darts and I was wearing thong underware and totally embarressed and pist off. I feel as if she is trying to cause problems for me and my honey and I feel like I have had it. The wedding is 9/3. I live in a small town and not from here, and I do not want to make people mad at me. Should I just deal with it until its over, or get out while I can?
2006-06-06 11:15:29 · 6 answers · asked by Doodlebug 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am a yankee in a small southern town. I am afraid people will be angry with me if I leave her high and dry without a bridesmaid. Should I try to keep my distance and then just end the friendship after the wedding, or just tell her off now?
2006-06-06 11:16:46 · update #1
You have no obligation to that bitty!! Tell her your reasons and leave. She has plenty of time to find someone else to fill your spot. Leave and do not look back. She is not a friend. She is a jealous, stupid, insecure acquaintance. Nothing more. Keep your distance and know that you are doing the right thing.
P.s. I would slap her if she did that awful stuff to me in public. Plus you should tell your husband about her trying to fix you up with other people just in case she tries to spread lies on you. I am sure he would have a few things to say to her about her rudeness and her dismantled behavior!
2006-06-06 11:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you probably planned to take off work the day of the wedding, and you probably have that whole weekend dedicated to the event, here's an idea:
Plan a vacation with your guy and let her know that you can no longer make it to the wedding because you're guy has a chance to take you on a ROMANTIC vacation. Tell her you're really sorry about it, but the money was paid for this vacation before she asked you.
FAIR WARNING - Being a bride's maid pretty much locks you into a friendship with this girl for a long time after the wedding. She will see this act as a sealed friendship, so get out gracefully now while you can.
2006-06-06 11:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's always been this way, then I wouldn't have agreed to be her bridesmaid in the first place. But if this is a new attitude, maybe she's just got pre wedding jitters and taking them out on you and I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and maybe try and talk to her about it. If she overreacts, then you have an out right there.
2006-06-06 11:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by JenEstes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it over with! It will only get worse and if she is that much of an a$$ people will understand small town and all!
2006-06-06 11:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Star of Florida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she made her choice to drive you away, get out while you can
2006-06-06 11:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by ditre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT WHILE U CAN......!!!!
2006-06-06 11:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by lusty_for_knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋