It has been going on for a while, I sort of stay out of the sideline without really say anything to her. Partly because I am not very sure what she thinks she is doing.
But I was stunned last night, when I found something more obvious --
My wife bought a small portable massage devices (those you can find in RiteAid or Longs) with 3 legs type, mainly for foot massage. My little one was placing that on the area, and seems enjoying it.
What should I do? (seriously)
2006-06-06 10:44:47 · 13 answers · asked by shemin 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Children who touch themselves are genuinely just curious about their bodies. They shouldn't be told it is wrong, but taught that it should be done in private. All children do it, and it is perfectly normal.
As for putting a vibrating object there........ this does seem disturbing! maybe she has seen it somewhere which needs to be investigated. Keep a close eye on your daughter. If she does it again, calmly ask her not to use it and then ask why she did it in the first place. Don't shout at her, just sit her gently on the sofa and talk calmly to her......... 'matter of factly'.
It may just be a curiosity thing but watch your daughters behaviour. If it changes noticeably this could be a sign of abuse. Don't jump to conclusions though. If you do feel your daughter has changed, take her to the doctor and voice your concerns. It is better to be safe than sorry.
I wish you luck on that one, and I really do hope for your daughters sake it is just a curiosity thing.
2006-06-06 10:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, though it may be odd, it's not all that uncommon. I would make sure that she isn't just trying to cause some pain to subside by touching it. She could have a bladder infection, a rash, or even a yeast infection, make sure that's not the the reason first. I hate to say it also, but even toddlers and young children are curious about sex. Though they don't know what it is, and shouldn't yet, they'll still do their own exploring. I'd suggest sitting down, and talking with your child about what it is she is doing. Don't be worried about it, alot of young girls do this, regardless of how gross it may seem. Also don't go into detail, just let her know that it is rude to do those sort of things out in the open where people can see it. This will help to keep her from forming an embarrasing habit that shouldn't be brought around strangers.
2006-06-06 10:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by ianr1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept that she is a sexual being, and discuss with your wife how to teach her what is only for private times and what is ok in public, just like chewing with her mouth open or something. Don't shame her, or make that part of the body out to be bad. Good luck.
2006-06-06 10:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem with this one ---- why hasn't your wife been informed of this --- you mentioned being aware of this going on for awhile now( and you are watching her do this) --- but you don't seem concerned enough to discuss it with your wife or your family's pediatrician ??? You even tell us where the item(foot massager) can be purchased but not one word states you have talked about this with her mom???
2006-06-06 10:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is touching herself because it feels good. It is normal behavior in children, male or female. Let her know that she should only do it when she is in a private place, like her bedroom or the bathroom. Don't freak out about it, or she'll have hang-ups later in life. AND DEFINITELY DO NOT FOLLOW THE ADVICE OF THE WHACK-O ABOVE ME!
2006-06-06 10:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Georgia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for todlers and older to masterbate. Not widly known or talked about in our repressive society but normal.
The thing to do is to explain to her that this is not something to do in front of people, but is otherwise normal.
And give her some privacy.
Whatever you do - don't stigmatize the kid - she is not doing any thing wrong and she does not need you to give her sexual issues that she will be dealing with for the rest of her life.
2006-06-06 10:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously sit her down (when she is clothed) and tell her that you care very much for her and you do not want her to get sick and if she continued to touch her self or put anything down there (point) tell her that it will fall off. FALL OFF LITERALLY!
Are you her mother? then lie and tell her that when you were her age you had to go to the doctor and he gave you a shot down there and IT HURT REAL BAD and you cried for days. Are you her father? ask a female to talk to her... good luck
2006-06-06 10:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by heybaby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All little girls masturbate- it's just curiosity. Tell her firmly that she needs to keep her hands out of her pants unless she is in a private place.
2006-06-06 10:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ask a doctor, i am sure alot of moms worry about this, u are definately not alone
2006-06-06 10:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with your daughter's pediatrician. She might have a vaginal itch or she might just be exploring. Either way, it wouldn't hurt to ask her doctor.
2006-06-06 10:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by SolMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋