I was born August 13, 1994. I was born in San Diego, CA, and 1 year later we moved to England. I have 3 older sisters and a mom and a dad. MY dad started cheating on my mom in England. Alot. When I was 4 we moved to Connecticut. My dad kept cheating on my mom. When I was 6 my mom found out and kicked him out. He came over alot wihout telling and hit my mom and yelled at all of us. 2 years ago my mom had to move me and my sisters across town to a much smaller town. My mom doesn't have a great job, and we, well... aren't able to spend alot of money. Everyone always yells at me ALOT and last year I started cutting myself. I hate that I feel like no one loves me. LAst April my dad got remarried and didn't ask us if we cared until after he proposed. I HATE THE WOMAN! JERK! She ruined the chance that my mom and dad MIGHT get back together! I FEEL SO ALONE! Help me! WHERE ARE YOU GOD? JESUS! HELP! I feel so alone... maybe suicide is the answer...
2006-06-06 10:42:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hurting yourself or even thinking about suicide is NOT the answer. Do you have a school consular or minster, ect to talk to..Trust me you have every right to hate this other women, but just think of the hell she will have to go through with your father, he will cheat on her just as he did your mother.Once a cheater always a cheater, put a smile on your face and think of the hell this women is going through already. Some people were meant to be together and some not. Your Mom and Dad were not. God bless your Mom for getting you out of that nightmare, love your Mom, life will be tough, but the tough get going. Pull yourself together you are not alone, cause I have been there and done that. Life will get better trust me and the Lord.
2006-06-06 11:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by rosemary d 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
First of all, I'm sure that your mom loves you alto. If she yells too much or doesn't show alot of affection, she probably doesn't mean to be that way. She has been through alot too and people sometimes have a hard time handling these things. So just like you are having a hard time, I'm sure she's hurting too. And don't be so mad about your dad remarrying. Sounds like he was no good for your mom anyway. If they had gotten back together, she would probably be miserable with him. Life is hard, but you have to find ways to keep yourself busy and get over the past. Maybe you should talk to your mom more and let her know that you love her alot and that you are hurting just as much as she may be hurting. Try to be more understanding of everything that she goes through and then maybe she will realize that you need her.
2006-06-06 10:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by jennymustafa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suicide isn't the answer, you are very young yet, things will get better and as far as your mom and dad getting back together why would you want your mom to be with a man that cheats on her and abuses her? your mom deserves better and that new woman that you don't like will end up being cheated on and abused also so she'll get whats coming to her don't worry about that. its sad that you think spending money will make you happy, it won't. you definitely need some help and some counselling. lots of kids feel like nobody loves them, its generally not true. your mom is dealing with lots of grown up things and maybe she is taking alot of time and attention on those things, i'm sure she loves you though. you need to find things that make you happy, stop doing the things that get you yelled at, try to be helpful to your mom so maybe she has some more time to spend with you. have you talked to her, reasonably and told her how you feel? sometimes moms don't know, that doesn't mean they won't care if they do know. look up some hotline numbers in your area, they are usually in the front of the phone book or in the blue pages, it will give you someone to talk to and they can help you get the help you need. good luck to you!
2006-06-06 10:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie suicide is not the answer!!!Honey God is there, dont give up. You can use these experiences in your life to help others. lean on god girl, he will take all these problems away. I am here if you need to chat. Dont end your life, god k nows your life is precious, He just has us go through things to make us stronger and make us lean on him only not people. We are all human and make mistakes, your dad is not perfert and it's not your step mom's fault, you need to talk to your dad hun tell him how you feel or write him a letter so he can't yell back. Your mom has her own issues and might not realize she could be taking it out on you. talk to someone don't end your life over this, you will miss the blessings god has for you down the road,
2006-06-06 10:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is NEVER the answer. You are young and believe it or not you have a wonderful life ahead. You are allowed to dislike your dad's new wife, but don't disrespect her, afterall your dad loves her enough to marry. As for your mom and dad getting back together... woud you really want that? Things might not be that great right now, but it sounds like your mom is better off not being married to your dad. Things will get better financially, hang in there. As for you cutting yourself, stop. It will not bring your parents back together. It will not make your dad divorce his new wife and you are marking up your young skin. Be there for your mom and don't worry so much about your dad is doing.
2006-06-06 10:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say that suicide is never the answer, you still have your whole life ahead of you, don't think that way. What happened between your mother and father isn't you fault and you should feel that it is. You are a great person just have been through so many bad things. I have been through lots of bad things and it was hard for me to go through with it, but I did and now I love my life and am so glad that I am where I am. Things will get better, just remember that you are a great person and if people yell at you it is because they hate their life and they don't know how to deal with it. If you ever need to talk, just let me know!
2006-06-06 10:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is never the answer, there is someone who loves you! Don't ruin someone's chances of trying- Things wil get better I know life may seem impossible at times, but you can pull through. Get a hobby- i started to play guitar in order to vent some of my problems and maybe their not as bad as yours but I have lead a pretty hard life too.If you ever need to talk dont be shy send me and e-mail or AIM me (usually i'm not on but I can make an exception ; )
2006-06-06 10:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by greekmoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know WAY too much about your parent's relationship. Not just the hitting (that would be obvious to see), but the cheating. My heart goes out to you. Is there an adult you can confide in?? Suicide is not the answer, believe me.
You can hate your step-mom all you want, but there's a reason your parents aren't together. If he cheated on her and hit her, don't you want better for your mom? Don't you think she deserves more than that?
Hang in there.....hugs
2006-06-06 10:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do that then your mom will get crazy and she will miss u, moms always cares about their children no mater what. Tell your mom to start dating agian so u could have a better dad u guys will be happy and your mom, so u dont be lonely find a boyfriend and hang together. Im 12 1/2 too
Good Luck
2006-06-06 10:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by mafia chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, the new wife did NOT ruin your mom's chances of getting back together...I am sure your mother would have none of that (if she is smart, at any rate). And stop putting yourself in the middle of all this unadult stuff..get your own life, your own friends and live some. Get out a lot more, and away from that house! Things will start looking up immediately! Good luck
2006-06-06 10:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋