what do i do about my boyfriend?

Question

we have been fighting alot because he's always gone partying, some times he takes me with but most of the time i just stay home. This last week he didn't come home, i know it wasn't because he was cheating. I love him and i know he loves me, we were ingaged to be married but i called it off when he didn't come home. how do i show him all i want is to quailty time? andhow do i get him to show me romance?

Answer 1

Sounds like you two have reached a crossroad in your relationship. You two need to talk and decide if what you each want in life is the same or if it is time to go your separate ways. Some times as your growing up in a relationship two people simply grow apart in terms of what is important for the future. I think this may be what has happened here. If you two can't talk this out and come to an agreement about what this relationship should be and the rules and expectations regarding it then you have reached the end.

Answer 2

He sounds immature. Let him know that you want a quality and serious relationship. He should not take you for granted, because if he keeps doing this you may find someone that can treat you better (like a girl should be treated). I think it was a smart move to hold off on the engagement until you are both ready to commit to one another. If he is telling you the truth, he should not get angry when you ask him questions about what he has done. Honestly, I think you deserve better than this... but maybe you could do something for him and then he might feel he should do something for you. You could get some candles and cook him a meal and turn off all the other lights except the candles on the table. Let him know how you really feel and tell him he needs to either be committed to you or you are not going to stay in this relationship. Maybe you could slip little love notes in his pockets or in a place in his house where he will find them. Schedule time with him... maybe a picnic or something that is romantic for just you and him.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like he is not ready for a relationship let alone marriage. I'd tell him what it is you want and need in a relationship and if he is not willing to give you those things then I'd say good bye and never look back only forward to the great possibilities out there for you to find the man of your dreams that will consider you his number one and give you all the things like romance etc that you deserve.
Good luck and God Bless you!
P.S. I wouldn't be so sure that he was not cheating while he was gone either...Take a good look at your relationship with this man and decide if he really is all that you make him up to be or if he is just a illusion of what you really want .

Answer 4

You both are not on the same level...I am sure there are things that you both like but obviously there are some things he prefers to do without you...cheating or not...its not committment behavior...don't even think about getting married, if you want to stay in such a dysfunctional relationship go ahead, just understand thats what it is...if you want a more meaningful and loving situation...your not going to find it with him...the decision is yours...good luck.

Answer 5

do you actually believe that hes not cheating? come on stop kidding yourself, its bad enought that he is partying but he idnd come home, i get mad at my bf if he goes and plays sports for a few hrs during the day, if he went to 1 party i would have already left him, just because your engaged does not mean a dam thing, you think thats gonna stop him from cheating? did you even ask him where the hell he was? i feel sorry for you because your prob. too young to know the dirty things men do especially when theyre out with friends, and dont come home. put your foot down b 4 he brings you home a disease, believe me even though he might love you that does not mean that he wont cheat.

Answer 6

He is obviously not ready to settle down into a committed relationship. Until he is there is nothing you can do to force him. Talk to him and tell him what you want out of the relationship. Ask him what he wants and if he is not willing to meet you half way then find another boyfriend who will give you what you need.

Answer 7

don't let the smooth tast fool you! from recently fresh experience, I was in that same exact situation for 5 years, believe me that's how it starts, then it will get frequent. I started saying the samething, and everyone told me I was a fool, I still didn't listen. I started seeing it myself but also started lying to myself. don't get me wrong, I'm not saying Its true but if you have that gut feeling go with it because you as a female have instincts and they never lie to you, even when you let your mind lie your instincts don't. For if you don't listen to yourself you will mentally go downhill and it may cause you to lose everything and you will have to spend double the time to rebuild it back up, mentally & physically

Answer 8

Are you a blonde? Are you ugly? Are you really dumb? If the answer to any of the above is NO, then what the heck are you doing with this jerk? Get a life, get it out on the streets and meet some cool guys who want to be with you.

Answer 9

i know this is easier said then done...but u gotta sit and talk to him. i really hope it doesnt...but if it gets worse, and u get in a screaming fight or something, he will just yell at you that he had no idea you felt this way, and maybe he would have behaved differently if he would have known. he cant read your mind, you have to tell him.it is so much better then if he finds out later by himself.
good luck!

Answer 10

Sit em down n tell em how you feel... If he seems like he dont care, get rid of him, hes not worth it if you cant have em to yourself sometimes... N second partin should be the last thing on his mind, especially when he has a gurl, tell him you want to make your own party..