My ex-boyfriend really loved me (we went out for 4 years) but he never asked me when I wanted to meet up until last minute and I always felt like he doesn't even care if he doesn't see me for days.. It really bothered me... eversince we broke up I've been hanging out with this guyfriend of mine who wants to go out with me and asks me when we're gonna meet ALL THE TIME. He seems like the perfect guy but I just can't see him as my boyfriend... I feel that life is so unfair, you never get what you want from the person you want it from!!!
2006-06-06 10:04:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's what life is sweetheart, you are never going to get everything you want along with everyone else, even if you don't ask for that much. 4 years is a pretty long time especially if you never see each other. You also don't see your guy friend as a boyfriend because your hurt right now. Just to let you know though don't let this guy friend escape your wing, if he does and he goes to find another girl... then your going to be jealous and upset and realize you had some feelings there. Try to go on a date with this new guy. Get something new, the guy friend you have right now could be the man of your dreams.
2006-06-06 10:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl I feel you. . It's good that the two of you parted ways b/c if a person can go days without seeing you, he either has a very busy schedule (I'm sure you weeded this out after 4 years) or he's occupied by something more important than you. If someone is feeling you, they want to see you, spend time w/ you and your always on their mind. At least that's the case for me, if I like someone. Have you read the book "He's just not that into you"? It was an eye-opener. As for the new guy that's pursuing you, I wouldn't allow him to push me into a relationship w/ him. However, there's nothing wrong w/ going out every now & then. Just make sure that everyone is on the same page. Hey, you never know this may develop into something, although you can't see yourself with him. Maybe he's a blessing in disguise!
2006-06-06 17:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by bronxbaby410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez. People around here are so bitter. Yes, life is hard. But it's not unfair. Love is what you're dealing with. Not life. You don't have to 'deal with it' you just have to learn how to take it with you and learn from it.
Just think of it like this: You use a computer. Whether at the library or at home. You're in the top 2% of the worlds economically wealthiest people. If you were in a different country like China or Africa or a Muslim country, you wouldn't have a choice of who you loved or didn't love. Your parents and/or husband would control everything about your life.
Granted, a lot of parents are that way here in the States, but it's a lot easier. I was born and raised in a great state with great parents and a great family. I'm not wealthy, but I've always got change in my pocket and a song on my lips.
Try and make the best of what you have, darling. You never know how good you've got it until it's gone. Best of luck with you and yours.
2006-06-06 17:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Yukina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on honey!! If this is a good guy, then go for it. Relationships can't be one sided though, that would never work out. You have to be mutually attracted. And yes life isn't fair, but you gotta take it with a smile, don't let it get you down. It happens to the best of us. We all survived!
2006-06-06 17:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course life is unfair because you simply can't find anyone that is perfect because it doesn't exist. In your case just keep looking because I'm sure you can find both a guy who your interested in and who is interested in you and being with you.
2006-06-06 17:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally completely agree with you. Life is unfair. whatever you want, you can never get it. You'll always end up getting something completely different and you get so used to it that you may sometimes just accept it.
2006-06-06 17:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by fall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make of it, and you never get everything you want. But I don't think it is right to say life is unfair.
2006-06-06 17:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to life, who said life is fair? buti just want to say that the right guy is out there but you must first get over the first guy .move on and forget about him, he only wants to see you when he wants and when he probably asked someone else and they said no. then he asks you. thats not right. he is not your man he is just a player and not really interested in you. go out find a nice guy but get over this guy first.good luck.
2006-06-06 17:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking about ur ex and comparing ur guyfriend to him. if u really see ur life with him then let it get into ur mind. think about how nice he is and how much fun u have together (if u do believe in that of course..)
good luck
2006-06-06 17:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So true...as you will be experienced in this life you will find your self saying nothing is fair not just relation ships. that's the way life is and all we can do is try to choose wisely...
2006-06-06 17:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Remi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋