Teachers an other ppl how do you expect parents to teach there kids morals an ethics when no one tought them!?

Question

self explanitory.

so far no one has realy anwsered my question
an gillopo has the best awnser so far an als reconizes she hasnt awnsered completely.

are you single? (im joking lol)

and scott has secod best ,

gillopos is the virst person, (other than me that ive know) that has noticed how each generation gets worst an worst .

Answer 1

It is very simple.

As a child, we are not responsible for our actions. We are dependent on others for our safety, survival, learning, and moral code. A child raised with discipline and high expectations does have a "head start" on someone who wasn't raised that way when they reach adulthood; the one without that upbringing must still reach out for and find a proper moral code in order to be successful.

An adult is independent, self-driven, and able to support him/herself. An adult is repsonsible for his/her own learning.

Our past can provide us with either an example of how to live our adult lives, or how NOT to live our adult lives (boy, oh boy, some of us really have great examples of how not to live our lives...).

However, regardless of that childhood, as an adult we are able to seek out knowledge and new skills on our own, make our own choices, etc.

If your parents didn't teach you a proper moral code, as an adult, you are still responsible for teaching yourself. Therefore, as adults, regardless of our past, we are responsible for our present and our future.

A child who is making wrong choices has not been properly taught.

An adult who is consistently making wrong choices does not learn from his/her mistakes... the definition of stupidity.

We know that chronolocially, the parents of the children we teach are adults. Therefore, regardless of the bad habits taught to them as children, they can rise to a higher standard of ethics and behavior, if they choose to do so.

Answer 2

Unfortunately as generations progress the respect we have for eachother has deminished.
This also means that people have no morals or ethics anymore which I feel to be a terrible shame. I think my generation was one of the last to teach children manners of all kinds, including ethical values and morals.

There are so many do-gooders around today that think it wrong to punish children in any way, and I don't mean physical punishment. Children are getting increasingly clever and have realised that as long as they commit crimes etc under the age of 16 they are more than likely to get away with it.
I do strongly believe that the parents are to blame. They should teach their children the difference between right and wrong at an early age, but with many children these days becoming parents they hardly know what it is themselves.

It must be incredibly frustrating for a teacher to have to teach any student that has no respect for you. I remember my mum telling me that when she was at school children had instant respect for their teachers because of the way they dressed. They wore uniforms of black gowns and those flat hat things and they knew how to control a classroom. These days teachers seem to be encouraged to become friends with their pupils, even going to the extreme of allowing them to call them by their first name. I think this is incredibly disrespectful. Children go to school to learn. It is the law. Whilst they are there it should be up to the teachers to show them how to behave and work as part of a team as well as the basic accedemic lessons. At the end of the day, children spend most of their lives at school and it should be during these years that children learn some of the most important lessons of their life. Parents should then continue the same attitude at home.
Children are just that........ children, and no matter what age they are or whether they want it or not, they need to have guidance and a figure to look up to.

I know I haven't answered your question as such but I do feel very strongly about the lack of respect and discipline in children today. I am sure if teachers had the power to come down harder on the students then they would find it easier to control them and gain respect from them. The government has removed this power from both parents and teachers and I feel it to be a huge mistake.

Answer 3

I think that you should envision the world that you want and then start to live in that world.

In my house, we eat together each night. We listen to what our kids have to say and we model polite behavior. We read books that give us opportunities to discuss ethical issues with our children and we take the time to ask questions with no easy answer.

I do have a strong ethical background and I continue to model the golden rule for my children. If I did not, I would seek a teacher (not a classroom teacher) or community mentor and ask for guidance.

The way to build moral families is to value moral behavior. If you get an extra $5 from a cashier, return it and then tell your kids what happened. If you are watching tv together, ask the kids about issues raised. Point out articles that are applicable to the principles that you want to convey and discuss them.

Look for teachable moments.

This is an excellent point to raise with your PTA or school principal.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

You obviously know what the correct morals and ethics are or you could not write a question like this.

They do, pretty much, get past on, do people choose to follow those?

If it is important to you then be a model. Who said parents have to be the model or the teacher? Would be nice though!

Answer 5

Most people from past generations in the U.S. WERE taught some morals. But you make a good point. If the parents are completely without morals, there will be none to pass down.

However, even today, I think its a stretch to imagine many parents to have no morals. Most of us know that stealing is wrong. Most of us know not to shoot other people. Most of us know that lying is wrong. And, among parents, such moral values are higher than among the regular population, because those with no morals will be far less likely to want to have children.

I think it falls upon parents to teach what morals they understand. Beyond that, it does fall upon others in the community to pass along broader ideas of what a moral code ought to be. If a parent truly wants to pass a moral compass along to their kids, and they don't understand morality themselves, it isn't that hard to find moral teaching in the community. There are countless religious and social organizations that espouse moral ideals.

Answer 6

The personality of a child is of huge importance, there are cases when parents are decent people but their child has the worst behavior in the class and vice verse. Of course if parents are drunkers then it spoils the child, but if they are decent and their examle is neglected by their child so I think it's their child's character and destiny to be such. Let them try to change something but if it doesn't help then may be it's just their child's personality.

Answer 7

I think that all parents have a duty to set down standards for their children to follow and all other adults in society who have role in education have a duty to teach them what is on the syllabus. However, if the parents do not do their job then society suffers the consequences

Answer 8

Ummmm....... most parents WERE taught morals & ethics at least once or twice when they were kids, usually in the form of a good spanking + a bollocking when they did something wrong.

Answer 9

I agree with you 100%! Sometimes parents think that the schools are supposed to teach the kids everything. Is crazy. All I can say is take care of your own!

Answer 10

my parents have very good morals and ethics