See im with this guy and i love him with all my hart and i want to marry him and he feels the same. he asked me to marry him and i said yes. we used to talk all the time and we used to never fight. but know we dont get to talk as much becouse he has a job(wich i dont mind that he dose)and he always has to get off the phone becouse of his mom and we fight a lot more latly. i love him and we both hate the fact that we have been fighting a lot more. I dont know what to do to get what we had back. i love him and i dont want to ever lose him and he never wants to lose me.we love eachother very much and both deni the fact that this could hurt us even wores if we dont fix it now.we just dont know what to do. I think the reason we have been fighting is becouse i get my jelouis thoughts in my head and then im quite and then he thinks im mad and it starts.dose anyone have any idea what to do?? please i really need help.
2006-06-06 09:42:04 · 13 answers · asked by suezannenorton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It comes with maturity. Unfortunately the high tempered relationships that we have as young adults come with the insecurities and worries that come with youth. With maturity comes the realization that a relationship may fail, and that you should enjoy each other in the moment. Plan for tomorrow, but not live in it...not live in the maybe it will fail, maybe we won't work out. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn't you will move on and meet someone else. As you grow older, the unbearable depths of emotional swings that you experience in your youth will be replaced with temperance, and will a more reliable feel for what we want and need. Just hang in there.
2006-06-06 09:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by tams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So u r fighting a lot these days eh? Good for u isnt it? NO? So u r smart enough to realise this. Our religious leader Acharya Tulsi (he was a Jain monk) always said that there r three things in life that will always help u to get out of, or to stay away from unhappiness.1- eat less.2- Be patient 3- Have humility. A flood washes away the strongest of trees but when it subsides you will see that the blades of grass have survived. U know why? Coz. they know how to bend with the flow of water; they do not jut out like the tree. So also in life u can either prove your point or u can be the provrbial blade of grass.Act in anger- repent in leisure U decide
2006-06-06 17:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by surendra s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys love each other very much, but you guys just don't know how to show your love the way your partner would apprietiate it. you may feel loved when he's spending time with you and he may feel loved when you plan a romantic and sexy evening and get crazy on him. mostly you guys need to talk and listen to each other, try this book. suggest that you and him read it together, "The 5 love Languages" by Gary Champman. If he really wants to keep this relationship he should come around and try this with you.
2006-06-06 16:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be like you and get jealous very easily - i let go the day i decided to trust my partner, trust me it's not like a light switch and the jealousy stops, far from it - but slowly and surely as you learn to trust and let go it gets easier. the big mistake we all make when we start a new relationship is to bring along the good and bad experiences from the past and that puts a lot of pressure on our new partner. you have to approach every new relationship as virgin territory and start from scratch, putting aside the experiences that may have made you the jealous person you are today. ask yourself this, if he has given you no reason to distrust him and then why be jealous? and if he has then do you want to be with someone for the rest of your life who is going to drive you crazy with fear of loss and jealousy?
i know this might sound harsh, but i was just as harsh with myself and our relationship is a 100 times better for it.
Good luck ;-)
2006-06-06 17:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by measureoflove68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are too young to be in a relationship but jealousy will kill a relationship. Just enjoy what you have together now. Also don't rush into getting married. Get out and enjoy your life first.
2006-06-06 16:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mommyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since you two had been on a date??? You two need to talk things out. And as bad as this sounds, you gotta use your engament as a threat (meaning telling him you'll call it off) if he starts yellin' at you. You deserve respect, so don't even let him think about yellin' at you!! Good Luck !!!
2006-06-06 16:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by To sweet for 16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have some issues you need to work out. I would suggest talking with a counselor to resolve your jealousy. If you dont it will follow you your whole life and destroy any relationship you try to have.
2006-06-06 16:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a little more self esteem and a little more trust in your bf. dont lose a good guy for silly things. i am sure he trusts you so why dont you return this trust. if he has not done anything to betray this trust, then take things one day at a time.
2006-06-06 17:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by missy isa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to over come your unpleasant worries about jealous your to young to think that the boy is yours... He
don't belong to you are you trying to be manipulative in your relationship ....By using control...
2006-06-06 17:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves u as much as u say he does then he would never cheat on u! so there is no reason to be jealous. and its natural for ya'll to fight.
2006-06-06 16:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋