What should you do when a friend screwes you over?

Question

Ok...let me start of by saying my x-best friend lied, messed with my bf, and has done alot of other stuff to me. We dont talk anymore and last month she starts bringing up the whole situation..saying that we need to get back together because it is going to hurt our other friends and we have too many classes together...and also all the "cool" ppl wont like her because we arent talking and they are my family and close family friends. So after a year and something i finally realized that she was just using me to be around all the "cool guys" as she calls them...but i dont know what to do...we go to the same church, ahve the same classes, and alot of the same gal pals. Should i pretend like this never happened and say ok ill forget it...or continue acting the way she does and ignore her...ahh such a mess over a guy. For about 5 months now we havent "talked" except for a couple of emails where she asked me to pretend like we were all "cool"...im lost on this one

Answer 1

You should not continue to be friends with her, she is not worth your time. A true friend would not do what she did to you.What you should do is ask God for strength to forget about her and wisdom to help you pick good friends.

Answer 2

I personally would have a very difficult time talking to that person again or trusting them . That's a total betrayal and shouldn't be taken lightly. Maybe you could be civil to him/her b/c you have contact with each other through school and church,but I wouldn't so easily trust them again for a while until they prove themselves trustworthy. Sorry, I know that hurt you. My best friend did the same thing to me when I was in high school. Good luck!

Answer 3

if she is telling you to pretend that everything is ok, well then do it only if you want to look dumb. everyone already knows she screwed you over by being with you man. why would yoiu want to let her win. you dont need a friend like that. she hurt you so why should you even have her around she will only make you look dumb and keep using you to your advantage. she probably does this to everyone thats why she has so many friends,because she emails them and says lets pretend to be friends and everyone falls for it. dont fall for it. leave before she hurts you more.good luck.

Answer 4

Sorry, I don't need friends that are going to dis-respect me...messing with your man...using you to be around "cool" ppl...she needs you a whole lot more than you need her , so I'd say payback is she isn't considered your friends anymore...there is no need to waste any of your time trying to make her life miserable...it already is that and she messed up by crossing your friendship...cut her loose.

Answer 5

i'm sorry. you got screwed over huge time. that is in basic terms the way men act, immature. i do not fairly see the point in asking this question. He screwed you over, so supply up chatting with him altogether. there is not any reason to anymore. bypass sleep with yet another guy. Do something else. Did you ever sleep with this guy, besides? in basic terms supply up chatting with him, it truly is that straightforward & no lady interior the international ought to proceed to be by ability of his area after that

Answer 6

Always remember that a TRUE friend doesn't mess in your business. I really don't think I would waste my time on her. She seems to be out for what she can get, drop her right away. It seems like she needs you more than you need her. Good luck.

Answer 7

Forgive her and move on. You don't have to stay friends with her, but you do need to forgive her. Tell her how you feel and how hurt you are that she betrayed you and used you. You don't need a friend like her - and you certainly don't need to act like your "cool" with her in front of people when you really aren't. Just be honest!

Answer 8

She sounds like trash...what would you do if your dog started biting you?? Well, what she did is worst....so treat her worst than a bad dog....maybe she will learn a valuable lesson....how can your other friends trust her??She DOESN'T deserve cool friends..because she isn't cool at all.......she will do it to someone else she's friends w/ if she did it to her best friend..she's heartless....stay away from her....she is nothing but TROUBLE!!!

Answer 9

If you talk to her again she going to do the same thing to you she did before , so no don't pretend.

Answer 10

never be their friend again. just tell her you don't want to be friends any more. you shouldn't forget it. she used it and that is never a good thing.just go to class or church and then go home . you don't need to hang around with her.