When he responds, he always says "I knew I wanted to marry you." After we got everything legal, he CHANGED and seldomly would do anything I like doing, but it wasn't a problem for to put on an act like he enjoyed doing these things while we were dating. After putting my happieness on hold for so long, it feels like I'm falling out of love with him. I want to honor my marriage vows but I'm starting to run out of things to do to occupy myself, and hanging out with family members doesn't equal the feeling you get when you're with your spouse. I'm open to suggestions.
2006-06-06 09:31:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your hubby and tell him how you feel. It's natural for couples to "woo" eachother when dating - doing things the other person likes and what not, thats natural, it's compromise. What you can both do now is communicate and find things to do together. Find a hobby you both like and go for it. You can also both compromise from time to time and do something that your spouse really enjoys but maybe you don't like so much.
The key is communication - let him know how you feel and that you miss doing things together.
2006-06-06 09:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how you put it, you are not going to be happy in this relationship. Cut your loses and run while the gettin' is good. IF he has so little respect for you that he will not do what you want to do at times, he has no respect for any part of you...you already know that. So why are you asking. Get the hell off the pot, stop using vows as an excuse. Divorce is not the end of the world, but staying with this creep just might well be. Do you really want to bring kids into his world? I certainly wouldn't.
2006-06-06 09:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering none of us really know what exactly it is he used to do with u that now changed it is a very difficult thing to give an adequite analysis on the matter. but broadly speaking when entering into a contract. and remember marriage is a contract there are terms that are designated before you enter the contract. both parties have to be in agreement for the contract for it to be valid. now if he ws pretending to be something he is not then your contract is void. you fell in love with the person you thought he was not with WHO he is. he mis represented himself. you need to sit with him and tell him that it was not fair what he did to you and if he wanted to marry you he should have been honest with you in the first place. see if he is willing to change. if he is not willing to change then the only 2 options you have are to put up with him and learn to live with what ever it is he does that displeases you or you need to take the highway route. a life with out happiness is not healthy for you. why waste time with some one who abundently makes it clear to you that they are a liar and not accomidating to your needs? in the end if you choose to stay with him and you are still unhappy then you have no one to blame but yourself. i do not know how old you are but if you are young enough to have children with him think about what kind of life it will be when you two have a child together. good luck and i hope you sit down and come to terms with what you want to do with your life.
2006-06-06 09:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that if he doesn't shape up and start acting like the husband you married that you will leave. If he doesn't then you should go find your happiness.
2006-06-06 09:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refer to simplyenigma answerer number 1
2006-06-06 09:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by thelovebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you consider couple therapy?... it will really help you... talk to him about your concern that this might not work if you guys didn't do anything to change your lifestyle, and let him know, that you are deaply hurt and that you feel cheated because he lied to you...
Suggest couple therapy, and tell him that this will help ur relationship constructively...good luck
2006-06-06 09:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy that you married an experienced liar. Way to go...
2006-06-06 09:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Big Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word - Divorce his ***....oh, wait 3 words.
2006-06-06 09:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the wonderful world of marriage you hear of things like this every day
2006-06-06 09:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋