what if your 13 year old was pregnant (I am not pregnant!) and you just found out what would u do?
2006-06-06 09:25:30 · 9 answers · asked by lydi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm 19 and I recently had to tell my parents that I was pregnant. It was easier for me to decide to keep the baby (the father is extremely supportive and we are both very happy with the decision at 4 months along) than it was for me to tell my parents. So be kind to your daughter... she just made a big step to tell you the truth and not go get an abortion on her own. Now you need to go over the steps. I personally didnt find abortion to be a good choice for me, and I could never have a child and then watch someone else raise it, but at 13 your child is not self supportive and I am. What she needs right now is the support to make the decision. Write out the pros and cons of all three choices and make sure she knows that having a baby isn't all cute and cuddles. If it is at all possible, have her baby sit for a very young child for a night so she understands what a huge responsibility it is. You need to sit down and make the choice together as a team, and she will need counciling no matter what you choose. Also, make sure she gets help, something went wrong for her to have sex at such a young age, she needs help dealing with that problem, as well as the baby. Most of all... your baby is still a baby, and this is even harder for her than it is for you. Be supportive and patient. Don't yell and scream and make sure she knows you love her no matter what decision you guys make. Good Luck.
2006-06-06 09:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would want to sit down and talk to my Daughter and the father of the baby and his parents and decide what would be best. since screaming and yelling will only make is worse, I would try and avoid that at all costs. I would Suggest Adoptions and see what the father and the fathers parents thought. other than that I don't know since I don't have a 13 year old. I just hope I will never be in that situation.
2006-06-06 09:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after the shock and hurt was over, I would contact the Parents of the Father of the baby and if he was over 18, then I would file charges and have him put in JAIL! 15 years, would be enough, because the baby will almost be a man when the Father gets out of jail for Statutory RAPE!!
Then, I would love my child as I always do, and love her child, and have to raise them both.
Would I be happy about it? ABSOLUTELY NOT! A child having a child is not the best situation, as she is totally unprepared to do what is best for the baby, being a child herself.
And if the father wasnt over 18, then I would expect the Parents of that child to cooperate in helping both of them, my child and thier child to understand that raising this baby is going to be a community thing, with both sets of Parents helping!! The Father is NOT going to get a "free ride" in not dealing with this child!!!
(The LAW still may have to be involved, but to what extent, is unknown at this time).
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-06-06 09:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is a bit young for a person to get pregnant,b ut with all the pressures in today's society it's a hard deal. I'd tell her that everything will be fine because of the support you are going to be giving her (which is love and acceptance and helping her out during her pregnancy.)
2006-06-06 10:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not suggest abortion. The girl will be too young to raise it. If I were able I would accept the responsibility to parent this child as my own and if not I would insist she put it up for adoption. Adoptions aren't like they used to be. There open adoptions now where the birthmother will still get to be a part of the childs life.
2006-06-06 09:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mommyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her on birth control after it's born and send her to counciling aparently she is having some problems that you didn't know about and needs help that you can't provide. in the mean time 13 is a little young she may want to consider adoption this is a choicr that she shpuld be allowed to make it is her body and will one day be her responsibility in five more years
2006-06-06 09:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and let her know that no matter what i will always be there for her event though i may be disappointed i still love her and that she will have the baby no matter what and she will finish school(no more happy hour for her)
2006-06-06 09:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have a talk with her and support her and give her comfort but still let her know it is wrong!!!`
2006-06-06 10:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by taytu_rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't turn her loose and she would not be this way this is your fault. some others say KILL HER
2006-06-12 17:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by themanwithaplan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋