Lets say she suggests it okay?...thanks!
2006-06-06 09:15:55 · 26 answers · asked by *toona* 7 in Dining Out ➔ Other - Dining Out
on the first date, I think a guy should always pay for everything. later, though, if she suggests to pay tip, that's fine.
2006-06-06 09:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by 27ridgeline 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm female (and straight), and have been married for 13 years now. If it's one thing I know for sure, is that if a woman wants to be taken seriously on a date, and wants to send a message that she wants a date to be more than just a platonic situation, then a woman MUST allow herself to be courted. If the guy you are going out with doesn't interest you, then make it clear from the get go that this is a friendly thing. If he wants romance, let him handle EVERYTHING. You can "pay him back" later - and not necessarily sexually - you can take him out - you can cook him dinner - you can surprise him by making him a pie or cake, you can pack a picnic lunch with his favorite bottle of wine.
This is NOT demeaning to women to allow the man to court - its all in flirtation. You can still be an intelligent, strong, witty woman, and allow the man to show off his "plumage" a little. (Do you really want him to think that you think he can't afford dinner for you? Do you want him to think this is just dinner and you want nothing more? Then go ahead and offer to split the bill, or cover the tip.)
I'd strongly suggest that if you want romance, and not another beer buddy, let him pay the whole thing - play your cards right and you will have plenty of time to even the score.
2006-06-06 09:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by puppyfred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy should pay for the whole meal including the tip, i would pay the tip.
2006-06-06 09:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that seems kinda wierd. If they are going to pay, let them all the way. You can pay the tip later at his place. It is like saying.... "let me pay for your tea and ummm your side of ranch" I usually just pay the whole meal or let him. One or the other. Sorry I am not trying to be a biotch just truthful.
2006-06-06 09:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bchlvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the right of third refusal... also useful to find out if you're on a date at all, or dining with a friend.
If she offers, decline, tell her that you'll take care of it. If she insists, decline AGAIN, and insist yourself. If she offers one more time, then let her.
If you've started to pay for the date, then you're in it for the long haul. Suck it up.
2006-06-06 09:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by unity824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is worth his salt, he should pay for the whole date. Unless it's his birthday, the guy should be creative enough to take his lady out on dates he can afford. If he doesn't have the tip, he should be taking you on a romantic pinic. It shows that he appreciates you.
2006-06-06 09:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by amyaliceco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old-school, but I'd probably insist on paying the tip, too. You wouldn't pay for "most" of her movie ticket....why pay for "most" of her meal. Pay for the whole thing.
2006-06-06 09:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice thought but being gracious has no rules. I'd generally wave it away if it's my treat. You're with me. I enjoy your company. If you want to buy me a Hershey's Dark Chocolate bar that's different. ( Hard to find nowadays. All they got is that milk chocolate stuff. And you have to go to the drug store of all places!!! )
2006-06-06 09:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely. It can rather help her, or him, as the case may be, feel they have chipped in something, that it's not charity, which human nature with it's pride can have trouble dealing with. Yes, especially if she suggests it. If it bithers you....get her, or him, an ice cream later or something like that.
2006-06-06 09:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the meal and the tip are usually on the same tab. she can pay for desert!
2006-06-06 09:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Circuitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋