Two of my good firends are fighting. I am caught in the middle. They are ready to not to talk to each other ever again. I don't want to be involved in their battle and I told both of them about it. Dispite my effort to leave the battle to them, they still call me almost daily to complain about each other. Because they are good to me, I try to be supportive to both of them without making my opinion. But this week, it is coming to the point that one of them are trying the best to make me take her side. (To the point that she became very angry at me and repeating one same complaining phrase about the other one over 30 times during one phone call like she was trying to put some kind of idea in myhead.) I'm very lost and need your help!
2006-06-06 09:13:16 · 6 answers · asked by Eman Kcin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All, thank you so much for your answers. I've read each answer at least three times so I don't miss any of your good advise. I would like to add one detail. This is not the first time they are fighting and in the past, I always told them to be mature and talk things out. This time, the one who always reach out is saying that enough is enough.
2006-06-06 09:38:59 · update #1
If you want to keep them both as friends then you need to tell them that when you talk to them you don't want to hear about the other one. Just be honest and tell them that you don't want to be the middle person and you have no interest in their dispute. If they can't keep from talking about eachother to you, then stop talking to them/ignore them. They will figure it out soon enough that you really don't wanna hear all their trash talk about eachother.
The other option is to pick one friend and ditch the other, but the odds are that in time they may be able to work things out. Try to see if theres any way to work things out - if not then be both their friends but let them know you aren't going to deal with any of their trash talking crap.
2006-06-06 09:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kinda stuff happens to me all the time and sometimes I am the one in the fight. When one calls to complain just Change the subject and talk about other things like Guys, or work, or school, or something and then plan a day out for just u 2 and try and keep her from talking about the other friend and later if she starts talking about the other friend again remind her that even though they are in a fight they are friends. Try it. It might work.
P.S. Remember if u do decide to take 1 friend out on a friends day out don't forget to take the other 1 too.
2006-06-06 09:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep! it's a bad situation! um..... I don't know your friends but if I were you I would try to make them friends again, coz even if they don't tell you any thing and just brake up it'll effect you to and you may even loose one of them or both! be careful may be you just have to be a good judge and solve it out! good luck
2006-06-06 09:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you meant what you said, you want no part of this and don't want to hear it and you don't appreciate them wanting to make you a part of their fight. If they call and start in, hang up. They'll know you meant what you said.
2006-06-06 09:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and tell them to leave you out of it. If they get mad at you for that then they arent true friends.
2006-06-06 09:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by crystal lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend, just get out of the way. let them fight and kill each other. atleast they will appreciate ur impartial attitute 'together' when they next meet in 'heaven' or 'hell'
2006-06-06 09:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋