My husband works nights and drives a sweeper truck and uses a blower to blow off sidewalks also. Well about 4 months ago he had broke down with a flat tire on the way home from work and called me to help him because his spare was flat too. I went to help him and he had leaned over in the car to get something out of it while i was still in the driver's seat and i seen a hair hanging from his goat tee and i thought it was a small hair but i pulled this thing out and it was really long and curly like a women's hair and i asked him where in the hell it came from. Well his first reaction was i don't know and he got sorta ghostly white and starting making up different things like i blow sidewalks and it blows things back all the time at my face and it might have got in there like that but now come on it was mangled all in it and was very long!!He just kept explaining himself to me and i told him he must have done something wrong to be explaining and he said no he doesn't like beingaccused
2006-06-06 08:59:37 · 22 answers · asked by Mondell&Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
But we have a daughter and when he hugs me or his daughter he gets it in his beard like that or when she is sitting on his leg and has her head back on him and rubs back and forth it gets mangled the way this hair was mangled! What should i do this still haunts me and still makes me wonder if he is cheating on me!! HELP!!
2006-06-06 09:01:15 · update #1
Also, the hair didn't belong to me or my daughter. I do not know anyone with that kind of curly hair at all!
2006-06-06 09:05:07 · update #2
Hmm tough one! Hair stuck in beard, my husband doesn't have beard but if i were you i would keep my eyes and ears open!! The way you say that he was explaining to you that sounds suspicious!! do you trust him enough to let it go this time?
Men are like dogs you know.... it all depends what you want! In your case i would say better that it go than keep it within you.... those things are not good for relationships!!
good luck
2006-06-06 09:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Pari 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One stray hair does not constitute him cheating on you. He drives a sweeper truck - things are constantly blowing around, it is very feasible that a hair could have blown into his cab and gotten on him. He might have been explaining himself to you because he knew how it looked and he was afraid of the conclusion you were going to draw. People sometimes appear guilty because they are afraid, not because they actually are guilty.
Talk to him and if he says he's faithful then you should believe him. Unless he gives you some REAL proof - like lipstick on his clothes, staying out late, unexplained calls, etc then you shouldn't be convinced a stray hair is a proof enough that he is cheating.
2006-06-06 16:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and make a list of everything you want to say/discuss with him, then when you two are alone and in a calm mood, gently bring up those topics and get your questions answered. If you decide to trust him, then trust him.If you decide not to trust him, then you have to decide if you are going to stay with him or not. In the mean time, just be a little more awear of the things he says and does and where he goes, and things like that, just as extra reassurance. It's a tough call. That's something that you have to decide for yourself.
2006-06-06 16:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not married but i do have a boyfriend and i think hes cheating hair cant just be on the ground one min and fly a different way the next ... im very sorry ... give him a slap or two kick him out or move out ... if he comes runing after you slam the door in him face and if he still keeps runing after you he must love you a lot but i would have a very long long talk to him about no man should ever cheat on his girlfriend or wife and no women has the right to cheat on her boyfriend or husband... and if they do they shall be dumbed or slap and even kicked out ... may the best luck go to you ... and try to make a good desion we all no its hard but what isnt in life ... good luck with this goodbye ...
2006-06-06 16:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a reason not to trust him? Does he not come home when he is supposed to, I have found through the years that my gut feeling is usually right! (not to scare you) but if I were you before I jump the gun I would do a little investagating just to rule it out that way you will not haunt yourself with it..It is easy to find out if your other half is cheating most of the time. But try and figure out why you keep gettin this gut feeling. Good luck do not jump the gun yet. find out for sure.
2006-06-06 16:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's cheating you're going to need more evidence than that. But he wouldn't be acting so nervous if nothing was going on. Do a little investigating to see what else you can find out. But one hair in his line of work is something that by itself, you might just have to let it go.
2006-06-06 16:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding. I mean really. What a strange thing to get out of finding a hair especially considering the nature of his work. Has he ever given you reason to be suspicious? Just calm down. You are hysterical over a HAIR.
2006-06-06 16:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by starbellied1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably shocked that you would even think that he would cheat on you much less base it on one hair that you found while he was at work. i don't know many women who see someone cleaning the streets and decide to go give him a quicky. if there are other reasons you have to think that he may be capable of cheating its one thing but no way should you get all worried based off what you just told us. let it go or you will make yourself miserable as well as him.
2006-06-06 16:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a step back and reevaluate your relationship, before now has there been any reason not to trust him? This is a big deal and I truly do understand but before you accuse please make sure you're ready to hear the truth.. it seems like a guilty situation to me so a sit down discussion sure wouldn't hurt ya know?.. good luck!!
2006-06-06 16:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by DAZED & CONFUSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think hes cheating maybe you should follow him or have someone else follow him it does sound kinda bad though
and someone else said has he done any thing in the past what does the past have to do with it every cheater has to start sometime right good luck personally from what you said id say hes cheating
2006-06-06 16:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋