I am going thru a break up and I am going to start over in a new city where I have never been.?

Question

I wont have a job and am hoping I will once I get there. Any suggestions??? This is the first time doing this so I'm pretty scared being on my own.

Answer 1

There is a little town called Petal Mississippi. I just moved here from Florida and I really like it. The cost of living is low and the people are very friendly. Hattiesburg is the next town over which has everything from a major university to all kinds of other stores. I truely reccomend my new home of Petal MS.

Answer 2

Seek employment through an employment agency either temporary or permanent-temporary if you're not sure that this city is where you'll want to be a year from now and usually can get employment faster so you can earn while you're looking for permanent position. This is much safer and less costly than you going through the Classifieds and having to find locations in a new and unknown to you city. Make sure that the Employment Agencies are where the Employer pays the fee and not you in other words no contract signed between you and them-the job(s) they find is a FREE Service to you. Why start over in a new city just because you're breaking up -couldn't you find job, move to new apt/house where you are or and I hope this isn't so you don't wish the person breaking up to find you . If so and you're afraid be sure to get some sort of restraining order for the police if needed can act more quickly if you've done this. Either case I wish you a luck.

Answer 3

Is it completely nessessary that you leave this job because of the break up? If not, I would continue on with the job until I was able to get another one I felt more at ease with. If you do need to leave this job right away, I would try and secure another job if I were you before I quit the job I was in. Leaving the city to start over sounds nice but you have to start from scratch so I definitely would not cut and run unless I was sure I had a job lined up, money just in case, a place to stay and a fall back plan in case anything else goes wrong. Hopefully, you can come up with all that and your move goes smoothly. I am sorry to hear that your going through a rough time though. Here's hoping things get better for you and that you meet up with alot of good luck.

Answer 4

Well i would start looking for a job online and see whats avaible in the area you move to first before actually moving there. I would not risk moving without having a job or moving without having a place to stay. If you have a place already jump right into an online search, write it all down and start calling to get interviews or better yet go to all the places you want to work at and always keep at it, dont wait for them to call you, you should call every other day to see if you can have that job. Also explain that you just moved there and that you are on your own and how nice it would be to have a job with them, just be friendly and open minded to wherever you go, be yourself most of all.

Answer 5

Lili: Best of luck. This is quite a big step. I suggest web searching your new city for local employement, housing, support networks, organizations, etc. You can do quite a lot over the Internet...even rent an apartment and register for school. Get as many interviews lined up in advance as you can so you hit the ground running. First things first: find a place to live, open a bank account and get a phone. Then get your driver's license and your car tags changed. Then you'll have all the i.d. you need to satisfy a prospective employer.

Answer 6

You need to have about $2,000 cash. Take your car and only things that will fit. if you have anything left over, give it away or sell it.

Find the city your looking for and Drive!

You need a checking account, debit card and maybe a savings account. Don't close your old ones because noone really accepts new account for reference anymore.

You will need to make a deposit on your apartment, electric co. will want a deposit, water company might (if you have to pay water). You will need to eat. Be sure you have your insurance card, registration, title for your car, drivers license. DONT FORGET YOU ID or your birth certificate and social security card.

If your 18 or older, you can checkout roomates.com. I personally think the place is a social networking / places to meet people site. But it might work. you might find someone who would rent you a room. The cool thing is you get to set the amount of rent you can afford.

Don't wonder too far from home. try to stay within a hour drive in case you want to go back or to go home to visit.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Well, let's see try go online and find the location where you will be jobs, apartments homes. etc Check it out if it's in the city near restaurants, .and especiall a good pentecostal church for sure. You'll need lots of friends and diffentely God in your life.!! Prayers always work. I hate to hear about the breakup there for sure.Wish lots of luck in that new city where you are going for sure. Try going to the place where you live and just try it out for like a month or so and then if it don't work out then you will only lose a months job, etc and maybe if you have an apartment where you are now you could sublet to someone for say a month or so someone you know and trust of course. I wouldn't let just anyone rent it. You will lots of time to really check everything the neighborhood, rent, bills, grocery stores , etc. That takes time. I SAY DON'T BE SO READY TO JUMP INTO ANYTHING OR EVERYTHING JUST BECAUSE THINGS DIDN'T WORK OUT THERE. Cause what's gonna happen if you meet someone new again and say it doesn't work out either , would you want to move everytime a relationship fails ? !! I just wanted to give you something to think about ok. THINK BEFORE YOU MOVE.

Answer 8

Hunny, I just hear your sadness in your words you wrote. If you are leaving your family and all support behind when you do move, I guess I would have you ask yourself, are you sure that is the only way. I have a bf that can get pretty evil. I am sure that some of our fights have only resolved because I kissed his booty so that I didnt have to worry about how evil he could get after a nights drinking. I even thought about moving far away if we ever decided to had to go our seperate ways cause I feel like this city isnt big enough for the both of us, but I have since realized how silly i was for thinking that way. Just keep yourself busy, find new friends that have good hearts are genuinly care about people and aren't out there just to use people to get ahead! I'll pray for you and that you can find a way to stay strong! Don't move because of some *ss, seriously, unless you really have an adverterous spirit about you, but you wouldn't worry about being lonely if you weren't doubting your ideas. Irrational actions can cause us the greatest pain, cause we just want to run, but we can't run from ourselves?? we have to suck it up and be tough!

Answer 9

Hey Stranger!!

Do not be scared!! I have moved to North America with a backpack and 100 dollars..And I made it!!! Most importantly stay focused to your goals, NEVER GIVE UP, cry if needed and smile even more!! Think about your experience as part of life...do you think you will regret your decesion by looking back at it when you are 80???
And do not take the change too seriously, cuz you will be scared...Go with the flow , smoothly and stay focused!!!

Good luck!

Let me know if there is any other way I could help you!!
I did not even speak proper English..found work..put myself back to school...got my citizenship!! whoo whooo, helped others, and have a good job right now..I moved when I was 21..on my own!! No family..no support!! Everything is possible,cheer UP!!!

Buggy

Answer 10

A few things you should ask your self is.
Can I afford it? do I have anyone I can count on there if things go bad? Why should I start over in a new city? Is the other person that special for me to up and change my life for them? I have done it and it is not easy and a lot of bad can happen it is a rough world and unless you have some family or friends to help you it will be a nightmare so make sure you really want to do this and you are prepared.