my 12 year old daughter has her lip pierced?

Question

a girl she knows did it she was not at home at the time I am letting her keep it she has her ears pierced by a pro she has wanted other piercings and i had told her when she got older we would taklk about getting them done professionally now i am worried that she may self pierce her nose or belly button does any one have advice for me thanks

Answer 1

It's very important to not allow your daughter to do things like this. Piercings and tattoos that obviously disfigure her, permanently identify her as a skank. She will be treated like one. That basically means no job/career, no access to anything but a lower class lifestyle and no access to quality men later on in life. The younger she is, the worse this situation becomes. You won't like the results of that at all. Likely, she will fall in with other scumy/criminal types. Don't be surprised if she does drugs or brings home a gang member or other criminal as a boyfriend. Being sucked into a life of prostitution is common.

This happened to the daughter of a good friend of mine who lives down the street. We live in a very low crime, suburban neighborhood where most people who live here are normal. She now has a baby she got pregnant with from a trick she was turning in exchange for drugs. She regularly abandons her child to go off on drug binges.

Is this the type of life you want for your daughter? No? Then you must maintain a certain standard of discipline and acceptable behavior. Being tolerant of her and accepting her decisions is quite damaging. You are the parent and she is only 12.

Answer 2

Being a mother of a twelve year old is so tough. I have a fourteen year old that is expressing her independence in her own ways, and it's frustrating. The piercing phenomena is not new... I self-pierced my ears (2nd holes) when I was 12, and it upset my mother quite a bit... of course, that was before the current fad of body piercing. The only recommendation I can make is that you pick your battles, but be sure to try to find out why she's doing these things, and talk to her about respecting her body. It probably won't do any good at 12, but it lays the foundation for other talks in the years to come. My biggest concern with my daughter is that she not become a "follower", and I've talked to her repeatedly about taking a stand for what she wants, not what is "cool". Some counseling may be in order, although you don't want to jump the gun if it's this is an isolated incident. I would be concerned about the self-piercing, but only to a point where it's the rebellion issue... doing something that you specifically told her not to. There's no good, solid answer here... if you give in, she may decide that all she has to do is take matters into her own hands and show you that you don't have control. If you don't give in, she may still do the same thing. Just know that other moms are going through the same issues, and we all need a shoulder sometimes. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Body piercings like lip rings or belly rings are easily removed when the person wearing them decides to change their look.. so don't worry about getting a job after college just yet. That sounds like the least of your concerns. She does need to know however that home piercings can be very very dangerous. Try doing an internet search that displays pictures of what can happen when infection strikes a piercing and get you family doctor to explain why a professional should do it. Let her live with her lip ring to placate her, but try to explain to her that you will let her get other piercings as she reaches certain age marks. Like go with her to the shop to get her belly or nose ring at 16, and tell her you will buy her a real jewel for her birthday if she lets you be a part of her decision. Hopefully, this helps.

Answer 4

somewhat you want to care the situation she have been given her piercing because of the fact she could get an STD or HIV from unclean needles. you could no longer eliminate it your self on the grounds which you could harm her clitoris, you should make an appointment for her to confirm a doctor to get the piercing precise got rid of. I thoroughly comprehend you opt to punish her for doing something so wreak-plenty much less and impulsive, yet you want to think of first of ways volatile black marketplace piercings are. you should make advantageous your daughter's nicely being is maintain and then decide on grounding her or giving her better supervision like a babysitter for little ones.

Answer 5

??? Why did you let her keep it? Did you punish her?
You just showed her it's OK to do what ever she wants. You should have made her take it out and punished her! It could get infected, she could get a disease if she is sharing needles with Friends. And she could scar or disfigure herself! Step up and be the Mom or your kid is going to be doing worst then piercing her body.

Answer 6

I would be so MAD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would tell her I might have said yes if she would have asked me before putting that on !!!!! She Should have to take it out and dont let her get another one for a while !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!