He goes on and on for almost and hour saying, that would never happen and you better never cheat on me!?!?!?!? I tell him i thought we were just fantasizing and he says well we were but that would never happen!? What in the hell is he trying to say to me or do? It is driving me completely NUTS!! and i have told him that it is! He wont' stop though and has been doing this like for 2 months now! He occasionally brings it up the other way like would you like to see me f*ck another woman and i go with the flow and then bam when he is finished the fantasy should be to but all he can say is i will kick your *** if you ever cheat on me and i tell him that he knows i will never cheat and he is acting crazy! PLEASE someone tell me what is going on in this man's mind? We have been married for over 14 yrs and have 4 kids and have sex daily but does he want more or is he cheating, i don't know i am so agrivated and confused at the same time!
2006-06-06 08:41:01 · 10 answers · asked by Mondell&Mel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Geez, lady, what don't you get? Your crazy, perverted sicko of a husband doesn't want you to cheat on him.
2006-06-06 08:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, actually he seems as if your husband has either had a dream or bad feeling about you with another man and its put like a sick feeling in his stomach so now he eases that pain by gauging your reaction when he asks you to portray having sex with other men. There is a slight chance he is feeling guilty about having an affair and is also releasing that emotion through sex with you. Nontheless he definitely needs therapy if this continues, I would recommend just belting out that "This isn't cool I love you and don't want to even imagine sleeping with other men" Something will click in his head and I'm pretty sure he'll stop after that. If he asks why you did it in the first place of course your answer is because you love him and wanted to make him happy. This will most likely be a phase and yall can move on unless you do suspect he's cheating. If not just assume hes not.
2006-06-06 08:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by cav411 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Threats are not acceptable. I'm not sure if that was the point of your question, but he clearly doesn't trust you, or trust himself, and taking it out on you and threatening you is even worse.
He sounds very insecure.
Anyway, if you still want to be in that relationship, and continue roleplaying (which I think is usually great by the way), instead of pretending to be with someone else, why don't you both try roleplaying yourselves, only in another time. He can be the... sword brandishing "knight." (And maybe picking up some cues on chivalry wouldn't hurt either!)
That way, it wouldn't be that you're roleplaying with another guy. (Which if you ask me, sounds masochistic. He clearly doesn't enjoy it as much as he thinks he does. Either that, or he's been cheated on in the past and this is his effort to control it before it happens to him, and he clearly needs therapy to come to grips with it.)
2006-06-06 09:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by UnrealJuju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start saying no to the fantasies until he has sorted out what he wants. If he wants to fantasize, that's fine, but he has to be able to drop the fantasy. If he can't, you may have to be the stronger person and say, "Honey, that sounds like a fun fantasy, but you have trouble separating that fantasy from reality, so I can't play that game tonight." Either he'll stop asking for the fantasy, or he'll figure out that to you, it's just fantasy.
2006-06-06 09:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the IDEA of you doing this and being this slutty type woman is a turn on to him and it creates all this excitement for him during the act itself
the reality is that he's insecure and doesnt want you being slutty for anyone but him
the best thing to do would be maybe to suggest that you stop this sort of fantasy and start one that only involves the two of you
good luck
2006-06-06 08:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by whoisgod71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with jason. It does turn him on at the fact that you can be a lil wild and let all passions out and loose. to him that heaven. but then when he thinks about he gets his fantasies mixed up in his actual life or maybe that the whole thing has happend before and he remembers it in his subconcious mind.Hope that helped :)
2006-06-06 08:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 10:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a nutbag - losing his small mind. Plus, you cheating with another woman is not cheating
2006-06-06 09:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh that is what i would say i would just stop doing that and explain to him why or go to a therapist
2006-06-06 08:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first two answers
2006-06-06 08:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Morgan Lefaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋