He says his wife and him have a agreement. He brings me anywhere that we want to go without the fear of anyone seeing us, stays over at my house once or twice a week. The problem is that I feel terrible
2006-06-06 08:20:03 · 18 answers · asked by tweentybird400 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him
2006-06-06 08:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he predicated your relationship on a lie and now you know the truth. He and his wife have an "agreement"? Many times the conversation that formulated that agreement is merely in HIS head. I bet that his wife has a different perspective on their marriage.
My personal opinion is that you turn and start running and don't stop. Give yourself some time to heal and look for someone who will be honest with you from the "get go". Your "guy" will probably continue to lie in other areas of your relationship or things not that closely related. You deserve a "MAN" not a "guy" in whom you can place your trust.
Oh, by the way, "separated" is not "divorced", so he is not yet legally free to pursue another relationship (even if he does have some type of "agreement" to the contrary). So marriage is definitely out (just in case you were thinking of heading in that direction).
May God bless you during this troubling time. Seek Him out and you will be at peace.
2006-06-06 15:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Charles C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separated is just the time between the brek-up and the divorce. If he says it's cool than it probably is. I met my boyfriend and he was "Separated" also for about 3 months. I was worried at first but she had already moved on with his friend so, he had no problems dating. It took them about 3 years before the actual divorce(no kids with her or anything of value) They just didn't get together to do the paperwork....finally, they did when she was geting a settlement from accident.(no...he didn't want any of it, just bad credit paid off)
Well, we have been together for almost 9 years now..........so it worked out.
Separated is not divorced......yet. Have fun and just watch for the Cheaters cameras....LOL :) Sounds like you have more of a fear than him. Why don't you meet her if they are on good terms?Maybe that would make you feel better.
He did not lie if he was honest and said SEPARATED. He is still married. Where the lie comes in......I don't see it!
Maybe his wife has someone new also.......maybe they just didn't get divorced for some other reason. Talk to him and get the WHOLE story!!!
2006-06-06 15:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by tleigh517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hon, I am so sorry you found a real jerk to hook up with...before you start hating who you have become hook up with the wife and find out what this arrangement is all about. I mean he lied to you in the first place right. So ...A Liar ...A cheater...what else is he? Get out fast and expose him for what he is, he is just useing you to stroke his ego. What happens when your in a position you really need him or his help? Find someone else. Good Luck....by the way... been there.
2006-06-07 17:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ja C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for this one, it's the oldest trick in the book.
He was dishonest with you when he lied about his marital status. He is a liar and a player, don't play his game. Cut strings now before you get more emotionally attached. Think about it if you were the wife and how would you feel if your husband is doing this to YOU.
Be a lady and don't let him romance you. He is married and he is NOT free to play boyfriend. Good luck to you.
2006-06-06 15:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not trust someone who has lied to you about something as important as this. Someone who does not respect the sanctity of marriage can not be trusted. He is just using you at this point and you need to make a complete break.
You may feel awful for a few days but you will recover and hopefully meet someone you can trust in the near future.
2006-06-06 15:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by mukherd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he takes you every where and he doesnt care about other people seeing you two together, then maybe you should ask his wife. and if he is lying about their agreement then you dont need to be with a guy like that because what he does to his WIFE he will do to you. Be smart, dont be second to no one.
2006-06-06 15:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by dajbjj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What type of future are you going to have with a married man? Are you looking to get married one day and have a family of your own? How are you going to do that if you stay with someone who already has strings attached?
Good luck!
2006-06-06 15:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by mama_wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a liar, a cheat and you are playing the role of a prostitute if you continue to see him and maybe, just maybe, there is even a third woman in the mix that you don't know about.
2006-06-06 15:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said he was seperated then he was still married, i take it you are saying he still lives with her, that would be a deal breaker, if there realtionship is done enough for him to openly be with you then he can move his butt out of her house.
2006-06-06 15:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still lied to you, leave him now before he can lie to you about something else.
2006-06-06 15:23:34 · answer #11 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋