In a perfect relationship though one should have enough love and cherishment to remain faithful and supportive there should also be a space for respect to allow that loved one to be an individual. How do you think you are in a relationship? Do you possess the strength to love without possession? To give distance without a rift? Intimacy without ownership?
Respectful in your fidelity?
How do you feel about this in your world?
2006-06-06 08:04:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no perfect relationship to begin with. We are all human & have faults. But trust & fidelity are common denominators to a good relationship. Everyone needs space at some time or another. No one should possess another to the extent of not allowing freedom within reason.A married couple are committed to one another in every aspect. They know their obligations to each other without asking. A relationship involving two people who choose to be true to each other without marriage is just as important as those who are married. If I told someone that I truly love them, I would be committing myself to trust & fidelity that would work both ways. But ownership is not the case, as it is in a marriage: I believe marriage makes 2 people 1 and that is owndership to me. Any other relationship would be more of a test of those promises. So it would be difficult at times but it certainly would prove just how much one is loved, wouldn't it.......:o)
2006-06-06 08:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by silhouette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that these are definitely things for a good, healthy relationship. I have all of this and more. My boyfriend has 3 teen daughters that live with their mother. I have learned from experience with my ex husband not to be jealous of the time he spends with the girls. They need their dad around as much as possible, especially now. We give each other space to do what we want, when we want, but also do lots of things together. Being together can be hard during the summer time for us as he works on a farm from sun up to sun down, but we cherish the time we do get to spend together. We are totally faithful (neither of us believes in cheating), both are supportive of each other, have time for our friends and families (together and separately), lots of love and respect, don't possess each other or get jealous of time that we spend with our friends outside of the relationship, male or female, etc. I never had all of this with my ex husband and am totally loving it now. We believe that everyone deserves to have the type of love and relationship that we work hard at. The key words are 'work hard at.' If you both don't work at it, 100%, it won't work. Period. You need to be partners in everything, but know when to let go and let the other person be who they are and have their space.
2006-06-06 15:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm in a relationship where we are both allowed to our own thing to a certain extent. When two people get married and have kids...their life should be at home with their family. A couple times a month they should be able to do the thing they enjoy. I'm very close with my husband...and i know he would bever do anything unless I said it made me happy or I was ok with it. I'm lucky to have a man who respects my opinion and yearns for my approval. I also would always consult with him on what I wanted to do. We always think about how our actions will affect each other and our family.
2006-06-06 15:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by cracker2423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe those are all things needed to have a long lasting relationship, as for my husband & I we have all of this and more, He is my friend and also my partner, we have made sure that we have time for our family meaning the children and us time, as well as time for just us two, what we call still dating, you know a movie, out for a romantic dinner just for two, while he also go out with the boys and I out with the girls, it takes two to make such a thing work, it's called giving 100% not 50/50.
2006-06-06 15:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say...whatever. My boyfriend has girl-friends and I have guy friends. We don't freak out if the other one is late. We aren't jealous. And I believe that space is healthy. I can't stand spending every minute with someone. I don't care who they are. People aren't possessions. And he knows if he thinks he can do better, he is welcome to try...just don't come crawling back when the grass ain't greener on the other side.
2006-06-06 15:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say yes to all of that, but since I am only human I will have to be honest and say,no.I think if anyone answers yes, they would need a reality check!
2006-06-06 15:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Apple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all so true.... This is how it should be in any relationship and marriage... Selfless and not selfishness! Marriage would be heaven on earth if things were like this!
2006-06-06 15:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just described my ideal. . . It exists in my mind, however, I am not sure if it exists in reality. . . I have never met a person who can handle what I consider a "good" life. . .
2006-06-07 15:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Romeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you confusing romantic love with obligatory love? I will love my children enough to to set them free. My husband is stuck here. period.
2006-06-06 15:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure we could all use some improvement in all areas.
2006-06-06 15:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋