my boyfriend and i love eachother a lot. but he always is acusing me of cheating. there is a guy at work that our hours only interlap for a min. i get off at 11:59pm and he comes in at 12:00am. so i stay for a half hour at the most but most times i stay 15 min. but just to chat. he think i'm cheating. 24-7 we fight ab out this. i have now been leaving at like 12:05am and he still accuses me. should we break up?
2006-06-06 08:04:39 · 19 answers · asked by chrissy b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. Just the fact that you asked this question.
2006-06-06 08:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Apple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U cheating? Only U know the answer. What is the reason that U stay, purely for conversation? Or are U maybe a little attracted to this worker? Either way, your boyfriend is immature and insecure. Its a trust issue, dont mess it up.
2006-06-06 08:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Brainiac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- break up----jealousy can really mess with a mans mind. I was jealous of an old girlfriend.....she said she was not messing around, but there was just something that just did not add up. Was she messing around on me---NO---it just was the way she acted and how she lead me to believe that she was cheating---even thou she did not I still did not believe her---end of story--we broke up and went our separate ways---I still see her from time to time and I realize now that it would have never worked between us. I do believe now that she was sincere, but she never acted that way when we were dating---which lead me to believe the way I did.
---I am now married and have been happily married for 20 years. My wife has never lead me to believe that she has or ever will cheat. I think it all boils down to trust---If he does not trust you now---Will he ever? And If you are arguing about it now, what will happen if you get married.....If two people can not trust each other then is it worth spending your life in missery?
2006-06-06 08:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by 2muchcoffee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man does he have some insecurity issues. This is going to lead to unpleasantness for the both of you if you don't nip it in the bud. Try relationship counciling. Find out why he is like he is.
If he's not willing to work on these issues he has, then you have no choice but to leave. I know how much it's going to hurt, but you have to be trusted as much as you trust him.
Good luck.
2006-06-06 08:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, cause your man is sensitive right now and he will stay that way unless you can commit to him to prove that you aren't doing anything by your actions. its a little ridiculous i think it's all in his head, unless..... you are doing something you're not tell us. hehehe but he needs to give himself an evaluation about his trust issues before he starts thinkin' you're a cheater. if he doesn't he will always have that trust issue and maybe he's been cheated on so he's sensitive bout it. just give it some time apart and if you still want to be with him make sure he's gonna accept you with trust in his heart.
2006-06-06 08:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealously never works in a relationship. I don't think he loves you as much as you think, otherwise he wouldn't be that way. If he loved you as you say, then he would understand that you will have contact with other guys. That don't mean you're gonna jump in the sack with them. I suggest you talk with him, and if you can't come to some understanding, then get rid of him. There's trouble brewing. MORE FISH IN THE SEA !!
2006-06-06 08:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.a hes insecure and or b. hes cheating 9 times out of ten the accuser is the one that is cheating kick his a$$ to the curb
2006-06-06 08:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by thecowboynme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if he doesn't trust you now, and your not even married, it's not going to get better. My ex accused me of sleeping with every woman that I ever came in contact with. I finally dumped that loser after 15 years. Should have done it much sooner.
2006-06-06 08:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't respect your need for contact with other human beings (male or female, doesn't matter), then absolutely chuck him. Get rid of him. Find yourself a guy who's secure enough to feel okay that you have friends that aren't women.
2006-06-06 08:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by julieanneu79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers your boyfriend for you to stay and talk to another guy, why do it? If your boyfriend is this jealous, you should probably kick him out. This could be a signal of future problems.
2006-06-06 08:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont break up with him. Guys are like that. As long as he doesnt call you names and drops it after a couple of minutes. Anything more then that is just ANNOYING.
2006-06-06 08:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋