Should I feel bad for not liking my family or wanting to spend time with them?

Question

In many ways, I blame them for being anti-social in my teen years. My mother enforced so many fears on me. Both my parents added to my depression and I realised that I was severely depressed throughout my teens and twenties.. I had low self esteem. Thankfully my life is fabulous now. Many of friends think I should value my parents more...and although I'm grateful for many things, I think they could have been more supportive and less cynical. They bring me down constantly and I end up hating to spend any time with them. I'd be quite happy to see them once every few years....and I wouldn't feel guilty about it. Many of my friends think that is terrible....but they have better family relationships and never experienced my life.

Answer 1

You can not choose your biological family, but you can choose who you spend time with. I have been estranged from my father's family for many years. I do not feel I am missing out on anything. The relationship with my father's family was never good. They made me feel the same way you say your family makes you fee. As an adult, you have the ability to chose who you are with and when. Do what is best for you and not what is best for others. You must take care of yourself first, or there is nothing left of you to give back.

Answer 2

It sounds like you have it all worked out. I reckon that if you thought they really deserved any better, you'd give them better.

They should count themselves lucky to see you once in two years.

Illegitimi non carborundum - dude!

Answer 3

If you value yourself, if you know who you are, you did the right thing. And you will see that you did it at your best and the people will value this.

Answer 4

It depends on why you don't like your family. Are they mean and abusive or are you just a typical teenager who thinks their family is lame? More info please.

Answer 5

it really depends how ur family is cuz sumtimes i feel dat way