i am a sikh girl and i want to trim my hair,my religion does not allow to cut our hair,though i regularly go for threading and waxing.i asked my parents if i could trim my hair and they plainly refused.i think they are just being unfair and old fashioned. i live in a hostel and can easily have it done in secret without telling my parents that i have trimmed my hair. should i go for it? pls advice
2006-06-06 07:35:53 · 31 answers · asked by infinity 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am sure in a couple of years you will be out from under your parents. I would wait till then to avoid a war at home. SOmethings are not worth it
2006-06-06 07:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Heythere 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
This issue of you cutting your hair is not just a disagreement between you and your parents. It is also a disagreement between you and your cultural and religious community.
If you cut your hair, then you will disobey the rules of your community and perhaps you will acquire a bad reputation in that community as a result. Your parents know this. And this is one of the reasons why they have refused your request.
Loosing your good standing within your community is not something you should do lightly, especially if there is no other community that will accept you readily and where you would feel comfortable.
Being attractive is a lot more than just looking nice. Having a good character is also a part of being attractive, especially for marriage. And if you make your hair look more attractive at the expense of making your character less attractive in your community, then will you make things better or worse for yourself?
This is something you need to think about before you decide whether to obey your parents or to disobey.
2006-06-06 08:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can only tell you what they know and at 45 years of age, I will tell you, no matter how much I went against their ways, I wish I had listened to them 99% of the time. I would be rich and healthy today. I used to be a Punk Rocker" and thought that was so me, but looking back, I just wanted to have my parents treat me like an equal. They didn't get it. They do now, and it's too late. Stand up for your self but if it's not up for discussion, let it be until you are finished college and on your own. Please. Don't make a foolish mistake . Hair schmare, who really cares about it in the long run? Go for success and live a good life. You can cut your hair anytime later, when you are on your own.
2006-06-06 07:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by tonyintoronto@rogers.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear, as in all things... LIFE'S UNFAIR.
Though no cause for end of the world or anything, I mean you stated that your religion is against trimming your hair, so in a way your parents - I've to agree with them on this one.
Having said that, you've gone for threading and waxing which seemed to go well with your folks or was it done in secret? Anyway, it's just hair it'll grow back eventually... try explaining to your folks when the time comes and hope it all works out.
Good Luck.
2006-06-06 07:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's why in a nutshell:
1) We can't afford it.
2) It's bad for you.
3) You haven't earned it.
4) We're punishing you.
5) You CAN have it (just not now).
How could you have it done in secret? Sooner or later they will discover what you've done.
Listen to your parents. They love you and want the best for you. If you don't like what they make you do, take it up with God(the Lord Jesus Christ).
2006-06-06 07:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dear Old Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your Religion teacher/pastor...whoever...ask them what you should do. If your parents are being overly religious about this ..he/or she will tell you. Then have he/or she talk with your parents. Have something like a round table talk., all of you discuss this together. It would be a sad thing to let your hair be so important that your family drifts apart.
2006-06-06 07:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by masya_art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be overprotective at times but it's important to have a good relationship with your parents. Ya gotta win their love and trust and be able to negotiate. You should try to understand your culture and heritage. So, why is it necessary to keep your hair long? In old Chinese times, it was also forbidden to cut one's hair. I forget why, it was considered sacred? (Something ancestral, I'm sorry to say I have short term memory.) In any case, I'd reconsider if I were you. G'luck.
2006-06-06 08:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes parents come in between things like this ......i ma saying this b'coz i have gone through this too ...i am a muslim nn my religion has plenty of don'ts i always complain to my paents but they think the other way.....i want to keep nail polosh but they refuge but i said them that when i will be 18 i will do what i like n they said its ur matter as u need to chose ur life ....i felt that they r right too .................as they do it all for family n religion ...........perhaps u can plan a different style just pull up ur hair n tie a clip it can work ...............just give it a try .......it might get on u n u may life a new look....
2006-06-06 07:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut it, i dont know how old u are, but i think u should be 18 or over, ur a adult, and u as a adult ur able to pick any religion u want, believe in anything u want to believe in, and do watever u feel like doing, they are ur parents, they r supposed to guide u if ur going off the road, but they cant make u live the life they want u to live! and its up to u to make that change!! even if it takes a lil bit of time!
2006-06-06 07:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by membrane killa :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How harshly will they come down on you if you do it? Will it be worth their wrath? Or would you be better served to rebel against something that matters more than hair?
If you do this, then they'll know that you're likely to disobey other rules, and they may make life more difficult for you.
Whatever you decide to do, hang in there. Once you're 18, you're free!
2006-06-06 07:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to talk with your parents and explain to them why you want to trim your hair and see where it goes from there.
2006-06-06 07:40:27 · answer #11 · answered by jessica|jealousy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋