i didn't even hear her voice except when she was asking me to lie in case of meeting him.
2006-06-06 07:30:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
shes victimizing you... she shouldnt be putting you in the middle of her problems and that makes her a poor excuse for a friend... what im trying to say is, do you want to be the one who conspires and allows her to cheat on her husband or do god knows what? Think of the husbands feelings in this situation... While you dont want to be the cause of them splitting up you have to know that if you told you wouldnt and couldnt be held responsible, your friend decided to do this to her husband and she should have to face the reprocussions. Do you care about this girl enough to actually lie on her behalf over something that could split them apart? I think its the husbands right to know whats going on, in my case I think I would not tell the husband where she is but if you know his friends or family tip one of them off and possibly they will tell them... its complicated but you cant be incriminated because you didnt tell her husband where she was, you tipped someone off and they told, but i think its the right thing to do in letting the husband know in one form or another that his wife is lying to him and may be doing more... hes a human being and has feelings to, and she is digging her own grave... It was wrong of her to ask for you to lie about her because she is putting you in the middle of their problems and asking you to conceal the fact that she is destroying her marriage. If I was you I would tip someone off and then let them tell the husband, either way theres nothing you can do to come out of the situation without getting hurt because if the husband figures out that you have been lying to him about something that is ruining his marriage then hes going to hold you partially responsible... and think would you want to be in that sort of situation as well. would you want your husband to secretely be doing god knows what and you to be completely oblivious to it and how would you feel about it if he asked a friend to lie to you for him? you have to put yourself in the victims shoes, and honestly you both are the victim to her lying ways
2006-06-06 07:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where was she during that time. if she was with another guy, it's getting complicated and then u should decide for urself. if she was preparing a surprise for her husband though or something like that, cover her. it's a little thing that if need be u'll definitely be forgiven.
i would say if it is something serious try to stay out of it. tell ur friend u really don't feel comfortable about lying. offer to talk about it if she wants, but tell her that's all u can do for her in that situation.
2006-06-06 14:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not much of a friend if she asks such a devious action of you. Putting someone on the spot to lie is not only selfish but degrading. Perhaps you should tell your friend that your not comfortable lying for her and if it continues, maybe you shouldn't be friends. You deserve unconditional respect from a friend, as do we all. Good Luck.
2006-06-06 14:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kezza T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would lie to the husband for my friend. Or if I really want to be devilish, I would lie to the friend and say ok I will, then I would ask her why she needs me to lie. If she says its to see some other guy, when the husband comes to me, I will tell him and then have sex with him if he is really handsome and say lets keep it our secret. And you can call it even.
2006-06-06 14:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by CherrySplendor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn`t really explain your question accurately,but if I understand correctly,your friend is asking you to lie to her husband for her. NO,you should not lie.Do not offer unsolicited information,but if asked,be honest.Your friend should not put you in situations to make you lie in the first place,and I would have a nice talk to her about it.
2006-06-06 14:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is no friend if she would get you into this lying scheme. If you have morals, which you must if you are asking this question, then tell her no and encourage her to either not do whatever it is that will hurt her husband or to be honest with him. It is not fair for him to live his life and make decisions as if they had a strong, honest relationship.
2006-06-06 14:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you are to your friend and also on the reason on what she is lieing to her husband. if she is your very good friends and close to, u can support her. u can also support if she has a good reason to lie.
2006-06-06 14:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by rishabh21_is_cool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it this for something more than shopping. It comes down, to what you think it's best for you. It's the friendship really important to you? The obvious answer is for you not to cover. But it's not your battle to fight. It's the husband's.
2006-06-06 14:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by hardcoco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh it. Is it worth lying to protect someone who is doing something wrong? What if someone did this to you, would it be ok?
Don't lie for someone else.
2006-06-06 14:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by thepathfinder804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should lie for her. its not a good thing to mess with people's feelings and im sure no man would like the fact of the spouse to be cheating on him. im a women and i know i surley wouldnt like it.
2006-06-06 14:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋