I just ended things with my boyfriend on Sunday. Yes I admit that I cheated on him with my ex. Before I cheated he wouldn’t call me, wouldn’t come see me and wouldn’t take me out. If he did take me out or came to see me it would be every 2 week. He was lying to me bout everything. Didn’t come and see me or get me anything on my 20h b-day. He told me that he needed to wash his car and that something was wrong with it and that it was too late to come to see me. 8:00 is too late to come and see your girlfriend on her 20th b-day? Yea ****** up I know. If I called him crying about how upset and unhappy I was he would always promise to fix it and make it better. That never happed. The day before I cheated on him I called him crying. I told him that I was again upset and unhappy bout how he was treating me. He yelled at me told me he doesnt have time and hung up the phone on me. When I called him back he didn’t pick up. An hour later my ex hit me up on-line and we talked. He told me that his has been looking for me for some time now and he really missed me. I felt so good to hear that someone missed me and wanted me. But it wasn’t that 1 person (my boyfriend). He then called me and we talked 4 hours bout me and my boyfriend at the time and everything else. The he asked to come over to see me the next day and I told him it would be ok. He came over we talked then he started making moves on me. I said stop it I have a boyfriend. Then he said yea 1 that’s not doing his job. He tried to kiss me and feel me up a couple more times I stopped him. But that least time he did I gave in. We had sex. It was the worst 2 min of my life. After I was so upset because I couldn’t believe what I had just done that it was the first time I had cheated on anyone. He left then I ran and got my phone and called my boyfriend. I was crying. He asked me what was wrong and I told him that he needed to come over so I could tell him face 2 face but once again he did what he wanted to. He told me that he wasn’t driving now ware. I told him that I cheated on him with my ex. He was pissed and I understand that. He couldn’t talk to me I told him I was sorry and I admitted that I was wrong. He came over 3 days later to talk. He told me that I had to fix what I did and I said ok. Then we had sex. He told me he would never have sex with me again, yea right. Then every week he would come over and talk. He told me ever time he came over that he needed time but he didn’t want to end things. I was so happy. We got into fights and he called me a *****, he told me that I was stupid and I talk to damn much. He said he was mad at me and he was sorry. Things started to get better for a couple of weeks. But that was all a lie. Sunday he said that he never wanted to stay with me, he didn’t love me anymore and he didn’t want a relationship. But now he wants to call me and know what I am doing and to know how I am because he is worried bout me. That doesnt make sense. If you dont love me and you dont want to be with me anymore then why would you care what ur ex is doing or how she is doing...? I just dont understand that....!
2006-06-06 07:26:49 · 21 answers · asked by dizzygirltiff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he never seemed 2 want to be with me then why does he care so much now that it over?
2006-06-06 07:44:41 · update #1
Sounds to me he has turned out to be one of those jealous ex-boyfriends that doesn't want anyone to have you after y'all go your separate ways. I think you should try to keep your distance as much as possible. Who knows what he is capable of doing if he calls you a *****. He has issues he needs to work out on his own. And, it also sounds like he had someone else on the side since he would never come visit you when you needed him. Just let him realize how much he misses you. It will probably change him. But then again, maybe not.
2006-06-06 07:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by ladia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok none of this is your fault. It sounds like all you want is some love and affection which is totally normal. I think both of these men are totally wrong for you. the bloke that never called and stuff is playing games with you and using you for sex. If he doesn't want to make the effort then he should get lost and don't have sex with him again cause you are just giving him what he wants. It's always horrible when you have a quickie with your ex because the reality is always much worse than you remebered. You sound like a nice person and you will meet someone that calls and looks after you and takes you it but it's not these 2 men they are both losers!
2006-06-06 07:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by beckie239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually what advice do you need?Wheather you should get back together or not?I think if you are unhappy in a relationship move on...it's no point staying on..plus your bf may not want to end things..he probally just felt hurt because you cheated on him..it is only normal..but from your story he seems like a jerk...maybe you should just ignore him and get someone better!good luck k!
2006-06-06 07:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shining StaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be surprised he doesn't want you because he sounded like he didn't want you in the first place before you even cheated on him. Don't feel bad many men and women cheat atleast you aren't married so it doesn't count. You need a man that will there for you no matter what time it is and he obviously wasn't all that. Don't fret move on and find a better one out there.
2006-06-06 07:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you bring anymore drama into your life. I think that you enjoy all the attention that you get from this that is why you cheated. But why be with someone who doesn't give you what you want. Don't answer his calls, don't talk to him, go on about your life. Good Luck!
2006-06-06 07:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Crap!!!! Did you look at how much you wrote...no wonder you having problems...you probably never shut up!! This is by far the longest question I've ever read....what's your question...ahhhh who really cares anyway? Go find a new boyfriend...prefferably one who's deaf.
PS: That thing about you talking too much.....could be a little truth there no?
2006-06-06 07:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am not really sure what the actual question here is, but I personally think that you need to break it off with both of these guys, Move on and find someone else that is going to be there for you for all of your needs and please believe that sex is not the answer to being lonely.
2006-06-06 07:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Maymie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you have a lot to say about that. I think what you need to do is tell your boy friend some of what you wrote like he did not wont to come over on your brithday that he was washing his car. Just say stuff that got you mad. Also he didnot call you.
2006-06-06 07:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy+Brett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...you are retarded. Obviously, you weren't satisfied with your relationship. But, being a coward, you stayed on with him and cheated on him, dishonoring yourself (and made it clear you are inapproriate as a partner). What you should have done is dump your loser boyfriend and then spent time searching for a high quality man.
2006-06-06 07:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the longest ,most redundant story ive ever heard in my life. It looks like you and I both had the worst 2 minutes of our lives.
2006-06-06 07:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Big Fred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋