he always says hes going to kill himself because no one loves him and no one cares for him! But i love him with all my heart but i have NO idea what to do besides listen. But when i listen to him it scares me because i dont know what tomarrow will bring! Hes my life nad my love...and i dont know what i would do if he killed himself
2006-06-06 07:02:14 · 9 answers · asked by Jackie w 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
This is manipulation and you are playing into his mentally ill behavior. You need to talk to his family and tell them what is going on and stage some sort of intervention. You can all contact a local mental health agency to find out what you need to do. It would be preferable that he is put in an inpatient program and legally "held" there. During that time the counselors and physicians can do what they need to do for him to get better. You are not a professional, you CAN NOT do this on your own.
2006-06-06 22:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by binga_4980 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stayed with a boyfriend who was like this for 6 long years. I loved him to death, but i got so sick of listening to him. First off if he really wanted to kill himself he would of already done it. No matter what you do you can't help. He for himself has to find his own light. I'm only answering from my own experience, understand.
I know the one i loved felt the same way. You couldn't blame him really. He grew up watching his mom shoot heroin and get beat on by his stepdad. His father long ago let him know on a daily basis what a worthless piece of crap he was. He never knew love. It breaks my heart still to this day to think of him. But I had to come to realize that no matter our upbringing we all still can choose our own paths. And I'm gonna tell you again, you can't help him. You can be there for him, thats about it.
For 2 years I still remained with this guy because i was so afraid of what he might do to himself if the only person that he felt ever loved him left. I let him drag me so far down in life because I was afraid to leave him. But a person HAS TO CHOOSE THEIR OWN PATH. All you can do is stand besides them and support them. What always pissed me off the most though thinking about it was always hearing that "nobody loves me." And it's like ok i'm sitting right here and you know I love you so WTF? That right there told me that he's not even trying to start to see the bright side of things. I would just hate to see another women dragged down as I was for caring for some who is never going to try to care for himself. It don't work. I left him over 8 yrs ago, he's still alive, still hating himself, and hating me as well.
2006-06-06 08:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by greyemer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either your boyfriend is truly feeling suicidal, or he is manipulating you by saying so. Either way, these are serious occurrences, and require professional intervention from a psychiatrist(even if it is just an assessment).
Being receptive and supportive are certainly important, but dont take the responsibility for his life on your hands.
2006-06-06 07:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Brett N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some tough love. I have depression and I I quit the threats when my bf told me to go ahead and kill myself. He said he loves me but I was pulling him down with me so either get to therapy or shut up, and no excuses about therapy doesn't work. Nothing works overnight.
2006-06-06 07:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with your local suicide hot-line. They will walk you through it. He might be doing one of two things... either seriously considering suicide or trying to manipulate. Either way, he has very low self-esteem. Make sure you have plenty of support from other people around YOU. God forbid something happens, as long as you take some steps to intervene you won't blame yourself.
2006-06-06 08:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
make him overcome his feeling that no one loves him, i know its dicy but then u ve to do this.....spend quality time together, make him realise that there are persons for whom his existence matters......quote some simple but wonderful sayings but remember this needs to be a gradual process or if things go out of control i guess a docs help will be the best!!
all the very best, god bless!
2006-06-06 07:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by gaurav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to help him get some professional help. Most of us aren't equipped to be able to handle a situation like this alone.
2006-06-06 07:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by older hippie chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people that really say this dont mean it. anyone who wants to kill themselves just does it. incase i am wrong however, tell his parents his teacher, guidance counsellor, pastor, doctor, tell everyone who can and has the power to help him and stop him.
2006-06-06 07:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being manipulative. Call his bluff and he won't do it. Tell EVERYONE that he is 'suicidal'. He may die of embarassment, but he'll stop being such a jerk.
2006-06-06 07:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by theobromo77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋