I have been dating this girl for over three years and she called me recently to tell me that she had cheated on me and that she wanted to "take a break". She still wanted to talk on the phone and told me that we would probably end up together in the end. It gave me a lot of false hope. I have been living in a different state for the past six months and know that this is one of the reasons for my situation. So I saw her for a 4-day weekend and we went to see my parents and hers. It was good but she told me straight up that she was confused and that she would continue to see this other guy. On the same turn she still wanted me to come and visit her, call her, and tell her that I love her. I do love her and want every thing to work out, but I couldn't continue on with her constantly on her mind. So I called her up and told her that it would be best if we didn't talk or see each other for a while. Her birthday is at the end of this month. I just don't know how to handle it.
2006-06-06 06:54:02 · 5 answers · asked by wonderinghard155 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you told her it would be best not to see each other than you shouldn't call. And why should you just wait around for her ? She choose to date someone else so why should you still be telling her you love her ? We all would like to have our cake and eat it too but its always at someone else's expense. You need to do what is good for you and that is to not have contact with her so you can start moving on.
2006-06-06 06:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead of calling her maybe send her an e card. Not to formal just to let her know that you wish her the best for her birthday. Make sure it's not a sappy card, send her mixed signals.
My self I would just say screw it cuz to me it sounds like she is/was keeping you on the back burner in case her new relationship doesn't work out. But that's me and this is you, so you handle it the way you want, but I think an e card is the best way to handle this
2006-06-06 07:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in our same boat.
If you call her she will own you, trust me on this, no matter how much you care for her you must not call her.
Instead send her a happy b-day e-mail, like an e-card or something, you acknowledge her B-day, but you are too busy to speak with her.
She wants to have both you and this guy and needs to decide what she wants before she strings you and this other guy along for too long. Her name isn't Marsha is it?, lolName of the girl that did this to me a while back.
2006-06-06 07:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very nice of you to say Happy Birthday. Sounds like you guys can communicate on a higher level then most people in a relationship.
Even though you're not together it still shows you care for her and want the best for her !
It also shows her what she let go - sounds like you were a good catch !
2006-06-06 06:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her on her b-day she will thank u for it and if u love her then tell her u still love her okay write me back and tell me what happen Jazie09@yahoomail.com
2006-06-06 06:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jazie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋